Ok, so I was having a conversation with a homegirl and she asked me something that just threw me for a loop. She asked if I would ever consider being in an open relationship. *Does a spit take* I was perplexed because she knew the type of person I am, so to ask me that was just crazy. She was looking at me to honestly answer her. Being the selfish bitch that I am, I kindly responded in my best Miss. Sophia voice “Hell no”. Then this heffa really went further with it… “Why not”. Well, besides the fact that I never liked to share I can’t see my man having sex with someone else and being OK with it. She confessed to me that she was  considering asking her man about starting an  open relationship, but was unsure on how to approach the subject. I don’t have much expertise in this subject, but I starting to think about it.  I know she’s reading this so…girl I came up with some rules/guidelines that ya’ll asses need to follow. Ol nasty ass…lol j/k…not really.

Sometimes, this subject might be a touchy one because in most instances sleeping with someone else while in a relationship isn’t that cuteness. If you really want to start this conversation and he sounds like he MIGHT be interested set these ground rules first.

1. Tell the damn truth~ If you are in an open relationship and you see a little tender that you wanna give that open coochie to, tell your partner first. It makes no sense being in an open relationship and you gotta lie to your boo. If you keep an open line of communication then you should be good. If they feel uncomfortable about the whole thing…DON’T DO IT.  In an open relationship the objective isn’t to hurt your partner.

2. Never get caught up~ Sometimes when having sex especially good f*ck your mind up sex, emotions can get mixed up in it. Remember, this isn’t an emotional thing. It’s the pure rush of sex. If you get easily caught up then your simple ass don’t need to be in an open relationship. You need to have thick ass skin to be involved in a relationship like this. If you know you cry at Hallmark commercials and always need to have sex with Maxwell playing in the background, leave that other dick alone.

3. Strap tight~ Protection is always important. Never engage in a situation like this and be foolish enough to raw dog it. You don’t want him to plug some random chick and get  her pregnant or worse…give you some shit that antibiotics can’t cure.

4. Never f*ck mutual friends~ Yea I know James is fine as f*ck, but you must not f*ck his frat brother. Not only is that in poor taste, but you don’t want people that you both know getting in the middle of this. A relationship like this should only be between the two of you and the random people you decide to sleep with. If he decides that he wants to f*ck your friend you know your ass is gonna start thinking that he wanted to f*ck her from jump street.

5. Listen to each other~ If for some reason one of you feels uncomfortable about it at any point… you need to end it. Open relationships is about you and your partner working together to “enhance” your relationship. If he feels uncomfortable seeing you with other men or vice versa then you should listen to what they have to say.  If you continue the relationship against your partner’s wishes, then that basically makes you a cheater. The whole thing done turned into something else.

I don’t really think you can develop any concrete rules to a situation like this, but having some sort of guidelines can help. I don’t know if she’s planning on really doing this or just talking out her ass, but this is a big transition. I’m not saying a relationship like this can’t work between two people , but can you actually feel comfortable laying in bed watching tv while your man is out giving YOUR $5 foot long to some other chick? Well women end up in that same situation everyday and don’t know it. At least this technically isn’t considered cheating. To each his own. I’m not here to judge…yes I am..j/k…really I’m not.

Holla at me: Would you ever consider an open relationship?