*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature the bloggers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to John Doe.

Loyalty, that’s the word that comes right after the big four letter word “Love”. Some may say they both coincide with each other. One may not be capable to have one without the other, in a safe or healthy relationship.  People, have you ever wondered/questioned the loyalty of family, friends, & especially your significant other has for you?  Well, that’s a question everyone thinks or asks themselves and will like to know the answer to before that big day one may say “I DO”.

“For better or for worse”, from a Male’s perspective. Most guys probably wonder if I didn’t have the keys to the car I drive, the house at the right zip code, or a career that indicates success would chica still ride or die for me?  Or better yet, if all the asset’s were to disappear one day especially with this challenging economy, “Would the Ms. still be there”?  (Jay-Z couldn’t have said it better)  Now don’t get it twisted ladies; no one’s saying to go out there and get a n*gga to just pound the shit out of your stomach and not a provider, protector, & a passionate lover.  But, these days most parents (especially mothers) teach or emphasize to their daughters what to look for or how to identify a good man.  Most times, this conversation comes about before the career conversation or even before chica learns how to be a good companion to the right man.  Ladies lets keep it 100%,  its to often females go out there and are drawn/attracted to the guys that can provide a lifestyle they anticipate vs a dude with a good attitude that their compatible with and may perhaps fall in love with one day.  So ladies, can you be loyal just to diamond rings and shiny thangs vs happy living?

“For better or for worse”, from a females perspective. Most women probably wonder; would he change after I’ve helped him turned successful, after gaining 50 lbs from bearing his kids he wanted would he still find me attractive?  After a year of marriage he found out that I can’t give him the son (Jr.) he anticipated would he stay committed?  Better yet, if after all I’ve done to, for  & with him if he saw a female with more assets; would the Mr. still be there?  These days most guys would choose the female that gives them more publicity vs the one with good stability.  Now just keeping it 100%, after he’s attained the house in a good community, good car and a great career; he’s going to want a female to best represent him in the public eye. To also reflect  his 360 degree level of success/accomplishments.  Now, the new chic might not even have good qualities and posses all the bad habits but because she’s cute in the face, slim in the waist, and phat in the right places that’s all she’s gonna need for a good living.  So, fellas, would you choose perception over foundation?  Can you be loyal to a shopaholic, big booty woman with conceited ways vs intellect, personality, & substance?

So we all know that Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz got married over the weekend. This whole shit has caused the side chick discussions to resurface. My homegirl showed me a blog where this woman was openly discussing her husband’s “side chick”. Yes, it is an unfortunate thing when your man DECIDES to cheat on you with someone else. Yes it is a hurtful feeling to know the man who vowed to remain FAITHFUL to you DECIDES to share his dick juice with another. I understand how anyone can feel dejected from such a terrible situation, but sometimes you have to put blame where blame is due…WITH HIS ASS!

A lot of women fail to realize that the “side chick” half the time is even unaware her ass is the side chick. The same way he lied to you,  it is possible that he can actually lie to someone else. Always blaming the other woman does nothing for your situation. The problem lies within your relationship. You need to question the n*gga you’re with because he’s the one that “supposedly” has loyalty towards you. A woman never forced a man to do a damn thing he didn’t want to. Some women need to focus their blame on the right person and realize he’s the one that needs handling. I’ve been a side chick both unwillingly and willingly, and I’ve also been the main woman so I know how it is on all sides. Although these instances happened years ago I can still remember how I felt with each.