Brandy I Love You, But I Don’t Believe The Lies You Tell *Video*

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Brandy recently sat down with the ladies of the talk show “The Real”, and when asked about her dating status Brandy admitted that she is not currently dating and she’s just doing her. When the subject of marriage came up Brandy also stated that she no longer see it for walking down the aisle and she’s off the whole marriage idea. I DO NOT BELIEVE THE LIES SHE TELLS.

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Vintage Post: Is Submission The Key To Success?

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I’ve realized that a lot of couples never speak about this topic. When women hear the word submissive they immediately give the “The motherf*cker must be crazy” side eye.  I will admit the thought of given into submission is kinda of archaic, but if your man/husband is doing what he needs to do as the man of the relationship…why not?

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Ask VI- I’m Pregnant, But Not For My Husband

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Hello VI,

So obviously I’m pregnant. The issue is I’m not pregnant with my husband’s child. My husband and I have been married for 2 years and  separated for 6 months. During that time I have been dating around,  just enjoying myself. Two months ago I was set up on a blind date with this guy who works with my bestfriend. She thought that we would hit it off  and have a few dates here and there. Well, after a few dates we slept together. This was the first time having sex since my separation, so it was much-needed on my end. We used protection, but a few weeks later I started feeling sick and uncomfortable. I took a test and found out I was pregnant.

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Are You Side Chick Material? (Video)

 

So I’ve posted my 2nd youtube video above. I wanted to talk about the advantages and disadvantages of being a side chick. Speaking about it made me remember the time I was actually…the side chick. Yea I know…me. Anyway, check out the video, comment and subscribe to the channel. I’m trying to get a hang of this youtube contraption. Let me know what ya’ll think.

 

Married At First Sight: Can You Marry A Complete Stranger?

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If you have never watched  Season 3 of Married At First Sight on FYI, you are missing out on some entertaining shit. I am completely into this show because it’s  a possible train wreck waiting to happen. If you have no clue about what I’m talking about let me give you the quick version of the show. Married At First Sight is a reality show where experts in spirituality, sex, marriage and whatever else match strangers up to be married. The experiment lasts for several weeks and at the end of it they have to decide if they want to stay married or get divorced. The catch is, they meet each other for the first time at the altar.  Oh and they’re legally married to each other.

It’s interesting to see who they paired together and what happens during and at the end of the experiment. I have been into this show since Season 2 and I’ve always asked myself “Would I be crazy enough to do this mess?”

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*Interview* Does Age and Experience Change A Man’s Perspective on Relationships?

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I always wonder about goes through a man’s mind when it comes to relationships. Do they even care as much as women do? As the clock ticks and the years go by do they look back on the choices they made in past relationships and wish they did it differently? How has age affected them and are they ok and content with the state of their lives now that they’re no longer 20 something? I decided to interview 5 guys in various states of relationships. I asked a series of 8 questions and it’s interesting to read the answers. The faces have been protected for obvious reasons…I don’t want ya’ll to see your man’s face and get mad and shit. 

 

                             

      Name: Thacomputa

      Age: 41

      Location: Chicago

      Status: Married 

 

 

1. How long have you been married, and do you feel like you married the right woman? 

 Approaching 11 years.  When I popped the question, I knew it! Now… it’s questionable.  And it’s mutual. We both have at times questioned whether we married the “right” person.  Over time, some things change… people change… and also… they don’t.  You marry a person for who they are at that point in time.  Depending on that point in life, they may be settled into the person they are eventually going to be, or they may still be developing into that person.  And you either expect that they will remain the person you married (because you think they are just PERFECT!) or you expect that there will be growth because you see room for improvement (because you feel the love you have is stronger than the fact that they are NOT PERFECT).  Or there could be a combination of both.  But nobody’s perfect so (in the words that err body like to use today) “At the end of the day” , you just have to decide if it’s worth sticking it out whether they are exactly “right” or not.

2. As a man of a particular age in a marriage, do some of the same issues you experienced while dating still come up in your marriage? 

Maybe a little, but not really… marriage brings along it’s own set of issues that supersede the dating issues.

 3. As you get older are you a little less tolerant to drama within your relationship? 

By the DAY!! And it’s more than just a little.  No man ever wants to deal with drama in the relationship in the first place(contrary to popular belief), so whatever drama he puts up with in the beginning needs to decrease as time in the relationship goes on.  It should be like the interest on an amortized loan where it dwindles over time. 

 4. What’s keeping your marriage going?  The genuine love we have for each other.

 5What do you think a women need to understand about men before they decide to walk down the aisle?

 Women need to understand that they can’t look for a man to fit into their life, they need to decide if they can fit into his life and not loose herself.  Ladies, you can NOT change a REAL man so stop trying.  If this nigga ain’t already 90% of what you want in a man, he ain’t the one and you can’t make him the one. 

 6. As you look back on life were there any women from your past that you wish you had done things differently? 

     Yes, but that is a very open ended question.  I could go many ways with that one. HA!

 7. If you had the opportunity to give your 20 year old self advice about life and relationships, what would it be?  

It would be to wait even longer than I did before deciding to get married.  Going along with what I said in #1, the older you get the more you settle into who you are going to be.  Over time you come to realize things that you really need or don’t need in your relationship.  The younger you are, the more chance there is for those things to change and/or develop.  This is how it’s possible for people to wake up one day in a long term relationship and realize they don’t know the person they are in the relationship with.  But this doesn’t mean you won’t end up with the same person because if it was meant to be it would be, just without all the growing pains that could sour what would have been so sweet.

 8. Do you think age and experience played a major role in the man you are today? Why or Why Not?

 But of course! Age and experience are the best teachers.  You live and you learn(hopefully!). “The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.” ~Muhammad Ali