People say there are no good men out here. That all the good one’s are already taken or loving up on some dude’s charlie . I say that is a bunch of poppycock. Yes I said poppycock. There are still some good men out here; some need to be dusted off and groomed a little but hey it’s still a good man. When it comes to relationships women have a list of what they want. They have at least 30 things on there basically describing the perfect man. Ladies, there is no such thing as a perfect man. That dude don’t exist, so please stop looking for him. If you can’t love someone for who they are, then you need to be alone.

When a woman has a vision of what she wants in a mind, she sticks with that vision. She follows her list to a tee and if she finds someone that does not meet that list, she automatically kicks him to the curb. These women are typically hard to please and they want what they want. I got news for you sista girl, with the shortage of men out here your ass better learn to work with what you have. I never promote changing a man, but I’m beginning to notice a lot of women are finding fixer uppers. I guess to them men are like houses, true it might look shabby as shit on the outside but with a little love, new clothes and a gym membership you can have the greatest guy on the block. I guess these guys can be the great ones, but are you actually showing him that who he really is isn’t worth shit in your eyes?

There is nothing wrong with taking the time out and helping the person you’re dating, but after you’ve cleaned them up and made them look good enough to eat sometimes you may run into a few issues. Ladies I need ya’ll to listen to me very closely when I run down what can happen when you decide to be captain save-a-geek.

1.He becomes a project rather than your man~ Your relationship starts to resemble some kind of around the house activity you decided to start on a rainy Saturday morning. Your doing all the work and he’s reaping all the benefits. It becomes a situation where you feel like he owes you his life for saving him from himself. If he gets all jazzy looking and decides to go his merry way, you will become bitter as hell. You were the one to put time and effort into his ass, then once he got all fine and shit he leaves you high and dry for a bitch that ain’t put in the work.

2. If he doesn’t change can you live with it? ~ I always ask this question on the blog. If a man doesn’t “change” to what you think he should be, would you still give the relationship a try?  Change is inevitable, but it has to come from the person that needs to change. You can’t just run up in a relationship and expect A through Z and get mad when the shit doesn’t happen. Always think of the long run in the back of your mind. Are you still willing to stick it out with a fixer upper even if the results you were looking for aren’t achieved.

3. You will be his momma rather than his woman~  A man does not want a woman to take on the role as his mother. If you dictate everything that he does he will resent you and basically become dependent on you in the long run. Take the relationship of Courtney Cox and David Arquette; Courtney got herself a fixer upper. She found a man that was basically a mess and tried turning him into a husband. The issue was, she tried to change him or thought he would eventually change and when he didn’t she filed for separation. Courtney basically told him he can go out and do whatever he wants, because she was just tired of having a grown ass man as a son. When you decide to pick up someone and “try” to fix em up, you run the risk looking like a fool for doing it.

I am not trying to deter anyone from finding someone that needs work done on them, but remember the drawbacks. If your not able to accept someone for who they are and what they are, then you don’t need to be in a relationship with that person. No one is perfect and we all have our faults. I don’t think there is such a thing as settling for less, but there is a thing as expecting too much. You can’t expect someone to be that perfect person for you when your ass ain’t shit on a regular basis. Hell then you have to wonder why do you always have to fix someone into what you want them to be? Do I smell *sniff sniff* low self-esteem? Just saying!

Holla at me: Have you ever gotten a fixer upper? If so, how did that work out for you? *side eye*

Fellas, let me ask you a serious question. Can one of you fine gentlemen explain to me why collecting a chick’s underwear makes sense? I remember back in high school this guy I was seeing asked me for a pair of my undies. I don’t know if he was into smelling it, beating his shit or just wanted to show it off to his dumb ass friends. Either way I never understood the logic behind it. I’m not sure if grown men still do this shit, but I need answers. Is this another way to tally up the bitches you done smashed or do you like to try on the pretty lace panties? Does your pantie drawer show how much of a man you are?

I was talking to someone the other day and for some reason we started discussing panties. No idea where the topic came from, but we were on it. So he proceeded to let me know that he collected panties back in the day. This dude said he has a trash bag of panties from chicks he f*cked over the years. Now I ain’t one to judge, but I judged his nasty ass. Why da hell would you have rancid pussy juices in a bag holding onto? These chicks knowingly gave up their panties thinking their special when they were just being added to a trash bag of other bitches. Fellas, why is this necessary? Why hold onto the coochies of your past?

Like I said I’m not sure if this is shit men still do, I see college dudes doing this but still. If a chick went around collecting boxer shorts and shit she would be labeled some kind of sick hoe. Ladies, ya’ll gotta peep game. If he’s requesting the panties after a night of f*cking he has more stashed away somewhere. It’s just another notch on his belt. Your panties are intermingled with a few others until you just become another faceless panty to him. Now if you like shit like that, then I love it. Just want to understand the logic, but I think I’ve figured it out.

Holla at me: Has a guy ever asked you for your panties? If so, did you give it to him?

“Why can’t I date my brother’s friend?”

The opinions expressed in this post does not reflect those of Candy Diaries. Candy Diaries is an equal opportunity blogger, and thinks this is some trifflin shit. Here is the Mystery Man.Enjoy!

I want you
To have my first and my last child
But not now
I’m not done playing around

I’m not saying that
I don’t wanna stick around
I want to stick you…and every cutie in the town

You turn me on
With your skin so soft
But I want to get off
And your body’s not enough

I mean, its perfect, I promise
It’s fly in its entirety
You think that I be lyin
But I just want some variety

It tears me up when I’m with you
I love you
But I want to bang your girlfriends, your sister,
your cousin

I even caught your mom’s sideways glance
You see that ass in her pants?
I love you but I’d hit it if I had the chance…no disrespect

And I don’t feel guilty
Because although my minds filthy
My love for you is pure
Just let me bang a few more whores

Relationships aren’t really designed for me
Resign my D-I-C
for monogamy?

I just want to be open and honest
Bang my old chick from college
And come home to you

And don’t worry bout the bone
I’d keep it stronger for you
And my love doesn’t exist
For nobody, but you

So STOP TRIPPIN
I cant help that my magic stick
Is so sick I can whip, pornstar chicks
They submit to the dick

Strippers abandon their poles
To swing around mine
I don’t pay for lap dances
She pays for the ride

And I’m feelin like dykes are missing out
From the pole I’m giving out
I’ve turned a couple out, put it in their mouths
Backshots, shouts on the couch

Digging her out,
“A” in the air, she’s reppin the South
Head down, smelling the couch
Sometimes she’s saying “ouch”
Don’t care—cum coming out.ahhhhhhh

But its just a nut
Once she’s gone, I’m back in the tub
Shower going, missing your love
Water hot, steam up above

Love you, but
You can’t accept me
For who I am Am I a criminal or am I just a man?

Hi V.I.,

Your cuffing season post got me to thinking about an ex I had. Our relationship began Sept of last year. Although we’re not together and I’m not in love I still don’t have any closure about our breakup. *By the way I was 17 and he was 18* In the beginning it was all good.. he was everything I thought I wanted except that it was a possibility that he had gotten somebody for a previous relationship pregnant. Once the baby was born he would do a DNA. Ok.. no big deal. Skip to a month later.. she has the baby.. no drama.. YET. Time kept passing by and my family kept asking me what was taking so long to get the dna out if the way. On top of that I found out ol girl still had feelings. But I still trusted that he would make good decisions and handle his business.

We spent Christmas together and everything was great, then everything fell apart. A week later he stopped calling me. * We talked every night on the phone*He would take forever to text back. Then he hit me up and said that he was confused about us and its not you its me. Bullshit. I cried and cried. I told him I wanted to break up. After we broke up he did the DNA. The child wasn’t his. He told me he wanted to try again. That resulted in him ignoring me again. We had sex a couple of times since breaking up. He still texts me sometimes. He has also asked my friend to hook him up with her cousin and he texted my friend’s phone one night .We believed he was up to something. So my question is why do you think he did me that way?? I still can’t understand why.

Confused and Need Closure

Dear CANC,

You’re in love with a boy that still doesn’t know the first thing about being a man. That is understandable, because you guys are still young. You say you’re no longer in love with him, but if you really weren’t you wouldn’t have written this email. You wouldn’t have cared if his ass was trying to hook up with your friend’s cousin. You still love him, and you can’t for the life of you understand why the person you love treats you the way he does. I was once were you were when I was that age. The more you try to understand the mind of a boy the more you realize that you won’t.

This is the case of a child pretending to be a grown ass man. The reason he left you the first time was because he thought the baby was his and the more she grew the closer they became. Once he figured out that the baby wasn’t his, his second fiddle *you* was gonna open him back with open arms…which you did. Then he started acting like an ass again. Then for him to go after your friend’s relative knowing that you would find out shows he doesn’t care. He’s 18 and feeling his own dick. He’s young, dumb and full of cum. He doesn’t give one single solitary f*cks about a chick’s feelings. He’s out to get what he wants and if you can’t deal with it tough.

You really do not need  to stress yourself about what this little child is doing. Trust me at your age you may not see it now, but there will be  men that try to come in and out of your life. You’re at the beginning stage, don’t let this bitch ass dude wreck your flow. By age 21 your ass won’t even remember why the hell you dealt with him in the first place. Boys that are dogs grow into men that are bigger dogs. If he decides one day to fly right, then whoever he ends up with will hopefully be a lucky  woman. Right now, he’s too immature to see the value in anyone of the opposite sex.

When it comes to love you have to expect pain. You can’t have one without the other. Once you experience love and pain the next step is letting it go. It may be hard to do because of your emotions, but allowing your hurt to eat away at you when the other person just doesn’t even give a damn is just too much. Accept this for what it is…the end. You said you need closure, but you really don’t. Closure is just shit we tell ourselves because we feel if we somehow talk to them things might miraculously work out. Closure is when his ass continues to hurt you and you finally decide to take away his powers over you. THAT SHIT IS CLOSURE.

I really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see it. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

So although damn near every negro blog on earf *yes I said earf* discussed this earlier this week, I decided to do it now. So everyone was in an uproar because Chrissy from Vh-1′s show Love and Hip Hop decided to propose to her boyfriend of 6 years, rapper Jim Jones. Now I am not the smartest somebody on the planet, but wouldn’t it seem like if he doesn’t ask you he doesn’t want to get married? There honestly seems to be a hint of desperation when this occurs, but at the same time if you love someone and want to spend your life with them shouldn’t you make that move?

A lot of women have the same stance on this issue; a man should be the one to get down on bended knee. Although we live in a non-traditional society, there are some things that hasn’t really changed. If a man loves a woman enough that he wants to spend his life with her, then by all means he needs to get down on his knees and ask you for your hand. If he doesn’t ask you for your hand that clearly tells me that you ain’t that chick. Granted some men might be a little nervous doing it, but when it comes to love it’s just one big ball of freight anyway. For years one of my guys friends always said “If a woman doesn’t propose to me, I will never get married” “If she loves me enough, she should ask”. When the hell this type of shit occurred, when a woman has to propose to a man that show him how she really feels?  He also said women cry about equality so if she wants to get married so bad, she needs to be the one to do it. Listen I don’t give a flying f*ck if I talk about marriage until I’m blue in the face, asking you to marry me is a no-no. I’ve learned my lesson.

So I guess I gotta tell the story then…wanna hear it? Here it go…

One time I asked a guy to marry me.  Well truth be told I was partly joking, but I was kinda serious. I knew I loved him and THOUGHT I wanted to spend my life with him, so I said it. Now when I said it I didn’t even know I was gonna say it. It just came out of nowhere. I said it with a slight giggle, but the knee-grow got silent as hell and had the deer in headlights look going on. Although I was kinda sorta joking I didn’t expect the man to be silent and shit. I was so embarrassed I walked away and immediately started to kick my own ass. I wasn’t embarrassed because of my love for him. I was embarrassed because at that very moment I felt I jumped into a “type”. I was the chick that couldn’t wait for it to happen. I was the chick that was gonna make it happen. I was taking away his role as a man. Now I don’t know if this man ever wanted to marry me *even though till this day he said he wish he did*, but I felt like he felt that I was so desperate to get married that I just asked. Again, although I was partially joking I wished at that very moment I could take it all back. It just wasn’t my place as a woman to ask a grown ass man to marry me. Now I didn’t go down on bended knee and shit like Chrissy did, but I felt f*cking stupid just the same.

Sometimes men get so afraid of the word “marriage” that when it comes to taking that step, they can’t bring themselves to do it. Marriage has gotten a bad rap because a lot of commitment-phobic people still jumped the broom and wished they didn’t. I’ve heard marriage referred to as “hanging yourself”, “death” and even “jail”, so women sometimes don’t understand why he hasn’t asked the question yet. So I say if he never asks you to marry him, it’s not that he doesn’t love you; he’s probably so afraid of losing his damn freedom.  On the other hand if a man you’ve been with for 5 years still hasn’t asked you or even brought it up YOU’RE PROBABLY NOT THAT BITCH!

Holla at me: Ladies, would you ever propose to a man?

There are just certain things you just can’t deal with when it comes to relationships. Maybe you don’t like a man who’s shorter than you, or you don’t want to date a woman that has a kid. When it comes to your relationship shopping list, you weed out the things that you dislike and if you can’t deal with it you send them packing. I don’t think I’m a picky person, but there are just some things when it comes to men in general that are strict deal breakers for me. Meaning if your ass is holding anyone of these don’t you DARE try to holla at me, because that shit would be cut short faster than you can say “V.I. I was wondering…”. NO!

11. Your FB Page Is A Memorial For All The Chicks You Done Smashed~ Have you ever met a guy that you liked and you couldn’t wait to get home to google him? You get on the computer and look him up on Facebook to find that he has over 5k friends and every last one of them has a vagina? His wall consists of chicks arguing and leaving suggestive comments on his wall. Then you go to his pictures and he has photos with a different chick in all 237 pictures. His motto in life is “Get bitches or die trying”. Yea…that dude there cannot come anywhere near me. Getting women seems like a conquest than anything else to him. He’s the type that would want to smash just to say “Yo Veronica??? Yea I smashed that chick”. More concerned with the notches on his belt than the Syphilis he’s spreading. Ol nasty STD infested ass.

10.  You Have Roommate aka Your Momma~ No grown ass man needs to be living with his momma in 2011. You parading up and down in a Lexus Jeep with your momma’s name on the title. You invite a chick over to the house and there is plastic on the furniture and a china cabinet in the dining room. You gotta tip toe up the stairs with your chick because you don’t wanna wake your momma…I mean your roommate up at 8:30pm.  Your too damn grown to be writing your name on the orange juice dude. Get up out the house and be a man. You can’t possibly think you can court me right? You see what they’re trying to do is find a new momma. You get with them and they move from their momma’s house to yours. Dude just looking for someone to treat him like his momma does. Naw sir…you need to try that with those other chicks cause this chick here ain’t about that life. If you can’t bring nothing, but a penis to the table you are of no value to me. Good Day Sir!

9. You have Your Own Basketball Team With a few Assistant Coaches~ I don’t have kids, and in a perfect world I would meet a man with no kids and we can build the dream together. So since we don’t live in a perfect world, at this age I think it’s damn near impossible finding a man without at least one child. I can handle one or even two, but when your ass has 5 and up that is where I gotta draw the line. Not only do you have all those kids you have more than one baby mother? So not only do I have to deal with all your kids disliking me for coming my happy ass in the picture I got your baby mommas hating me in the process? I’m sorry, but I can’t deal with all that drama. I don’t do drama and I damn sure don’t want none.  So if you know that you have too much going on in your life then skip over me. I rather spend the rest of my life alone with 18 cats and a parakeet than your 12 children and 8 baby mommas. I refuse to be a statistic.

8. Your Hair So Nappy Wilson Couldn’t Pick It~ I am very very big on hair. I don’t care if you’re man, woman or child your hair shouldn’t look like a hot mess. When I see a man there are 3 places that I browse first.

~His Hair~ If your hair is looking like you just ran away from the cotton fields 8 days ago and traveled along the Underground Railroad I can’t respect you. I like my men to look presentable. Y0ur hair says a lot about you. If you’re over 25 and rock plats I will have to say no to your advances. No grown man over the age of 25 should have braids. It’s like your saying to everyone “I work at burger hut, and I refuse to get a job with benefits because I’m afraid to grow up”. I mean look at Jim Jones. I cannot take that man seriously with that shit on his head. Plus, that dude refuses to braid it up. He braids his shit like once every 12 years. With the “money” he has he can’t get a chick to braid his hair?

~Your clothes~ Like I said I like my men neat and presentable. You have to look good in your clothes. If your pants is hanging off your ass and I can see the crotch of your boxers, you’re not for me. I really really hate seeing boys with this damn dumb ass trend. Oh don’t talk about the one’s that wear the skinny jeans and still wanna show their boxers. The waist is now down to the ankles and their walking all wide and shit trying to hold up the pants while they walk. Yuck!

~Shoes~ You need to be able to keep your shoe game clean. I don’t know sneakers and what’s hot or what, but if all you own are sneakers then we gotta get you out of that. Sneakers are cool, but looking like you going to play ball no matter where we go isn’t sexy to me. I need to know that my man can rock a tight pair of kicks and can still dress like we’re going to a dinner party. Please this is very important….I cannot do white hard bottoms. If you have white dress shoes you gonna have to send them thangs to the salvation army if you wanna holla at me. I hate white shoes. I don’t know why I do, but I just do. I can’t stand them and in my presence my blood crawls when I have to look at it.

So I guess this is one of the rules I can work around if a man decides to step his game up, but if he refuses then yea…noooooo.

7. I Just Say No To Drugs Cause McGruff the Crime Dog Said So~ I don’t do drugs. I have known too many addicts in my time to ever want to do drugs. I am high on life, so putting a controlled substance in my body to have a good time is out of the question. Yea I am a social drinker, but I can’t deal with someone that needs liquor or a narcotic to function in everyday society. If you have a substance abuse problem the only thing I can do for you is take you to rehab and a few meetings. An addict never stops being an addict because they don’t touch a crack pipe for a month. An addict struggles daily to curb their addictions. I don’t know if it’s selfish of me, but I can’t deal with struggling with someones addiction. Everyday I wake up I pray that you have a good day so you don’t have to take a drink or take the rent money and smoke it up? That’s just too much stress. And even if you not doing it, I’m gonna think you’re doing it, so why put us both through that mess?

6. No Car Having MoFo~ If you riding the bus, you betta go thata way. I don’t think I’m too good for the bus or anything, but if you’re 30 and over your ass need to have your own shit by now. I rode the bus in college and as a grown ass woman, I prefer the comfort of a car verses a smelly ass bus. Today I was asked out by this guy I had a few dates with about 4 years ago. Now 4 years ago his ass didn’t have a car. I let that shit slide because he was a nice guy and not everyone has the money for a car. The issue that I faced was, I had to pick his ass up or drop his ass off anytime we had a date. I mean the first time was ok, the second was passable, but come the hell on. Do you know this knee-grow is still without his own transportation. You mean to tell me in 4 f*cking years you couldn’t buy a hooptie or something? You expect me to pick you up? Get the f*ck outta here with that bullshit. I am sorry, but if you don’t have a car or continuous access to a car DO NOT HOLLA AT ME. SHIT WTF YOU THINK I’M RUNNING HERE? A SHUTTLE SERVICE?

5. Bitchy Men~ I can be a bitch sometimes, but I don’t need my man to act like one too. I mean there are a lot of men that have these bitchy attitudes like the world owes them a nut or something. Sweetheart keep that attitude outta my area cause I cannot tolerate it. I don’t wanna to be with a guy and all he does is complain all the time, then whine like a baby. I dated this guy one time and I swear this dude had a hidden vagina. This man whined about everything. *In a kid’s voice* “Why don’t you ever say you love me?” “Why do you look at me in disgust all the time”…blah blah blah. I swear I don’t know how I dealt with that dude as long as I did cause I wanted to just punch that dude in the throat and say “Say it witcha chest”.

“You’re a good woman. You’re strong, supportive and treat a man right”…but why are so many good women still single? Ladies, time and time again we’ve heard this line. You’re told you have all the great qualities any man would want, but no matter what time of day it is you’re always alone. No relationship lasts for the long haul. When it’s over you’re still nursing your wounds while they hop on the next bitch smoking. Is it that good women are too good or is it that men just don’t realize what they had until they end up with  someone worse? Why do men praise your qualities, but still go after the trick bitches that ain’t got shit but a GED and 5 kids?

The good women always get the short end of the stick. They always say “Nice guys finish last” well even the nice guys aren’t into nice women. I’m not sure why men stray away from good women, but the shit is getting infuriating. I’ve been told on several occasions that I am a very good woman. I’m a loyal woman. No matter what the situation I have my man’s back until the end. Even if the relationship is over and we’ve gotten on a friend level I still give support, advice and loyalty. That is my trait. That’s how I am with everyone. I am loyal until you give me a reason not to be. Men see this trait in a lot of women, but at the end of the day these women are at the bottom of the totem pole. They don’t have enough drama. They’re too caring. They’re heart is too good, but they still walk around and say “There aren’t any good women around”.

Don’t talk about when you meet a man and the first thing he asks you is “Damn why are you single? Why hasn’t anyone snatched you up yet”. Yes, why hasn’t anyone snatched you up? Not saying you need someone in your life to complete you, because frankly you’re already a whole person.  You’re just at the point in your life when you’re ready to settle down and meet that person so you two can share your life together. Is that too much to ask? No matter how much you pray on it, it seems like an unattainable dream. I believe GOD is working on your life, but you’re starting to become so impatient because it seems like you’ve been waiting forever.

It’s like you’re never given the opportunity to really show what you have to offer. Now, the women who are bitchy, shady and evil get countless opportunities. Hell a lot of em even get the husband. Well half the time it doesn’t last but they still get the husbands, but good women are the one’s looked at as high risk. How does this even make sense? Do we have to become a bitch to finish first? I’m convinced men don’t know what the hell they’re really looking for, and they have the nerve to call women confused. There are men out here that see the qualities you have and force themselves to believe that the chick with the bad attitude possesses these traits. Or is it the fact that men feel they don’t deserve a good woman? Hmmmm…that might be a thought. A man doesn’t think he’s good enough to keep a good woman happy. That actually makes sense to me. Having a good woman on your arm seems played. That’s not gonna get you respect in the streets. *side eye of death*

At the end of the day all we do is wait it out. Whatever plan GOD has for us we just have to wait until he’s ready to present it. Some of us wait in the shadows, while others pour themselves into their careers. We fight off the men that aren’t worth our times and we hope that one day we find one that is worth that time. It’s not about being lonely…it’s about companionship. Starting the next chapter of your life. It’s like men expect you to wait until they’re good and ready to accept a good one in their lives. By the time they come back around hopefully you’ve found the good man that’s seeking that good woman. All the guys that passed you up can kick a damn brick.

Holla at me: Fellas, why do you always pass up the good ones?

*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature the bloggers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to John Doe.

Loyalty, that’s the word that comes right after the big four letter word “Love”. Some may say they both coincide with each other. One may not be capable to have one without the other, in a safe or healthy relationship.  People, have you ever wondered/questioned the loyalty of family, friends, & especially your significant other has for you?  Well, that’s a question everyone thinks or asks themselves and will like to know the answer to before that big day one may say “I DO”.

“For better or for worse”, from a Male’s perspective. Most guys probably wonder if I didn’t have the keys to the car I drive, the house at the right zip code, or a career that indicates success would chica still ride or die for me?  Or better yet, if all the asset’s were to disappear one day especially with this challenging economy, “Would the Ms. still be there”?  (Jay-Z couldn’t have said it better)  Now don’t get it twisted ladies; no one’s saying to go out there and get a n*gga to just pound the shit out of your stomach and not a provider, protector, & a passionate lover.  But, these days most parents (especially mothers) teach or emphasize to their daughters what to look for or how to identify a good man.  Most times, this conversation comes about before the career conversation or even before chica learns how to be a good companion to the right man.  Ladies lets keep it 100%,  its to often females go out there and are drawn/attracted to the guys that can provide a lifestyle they anticipate vs a dude with a good attitude that their compatible with and may perhaps fall in love with one day.  So ladies, can you be loyal just to diamond rings and shiny thangs vs happy living?

“For better or for worse”, from a females perspective. Most women probably wonder; would he change after I’ve helped him turned successful, after gaining 50 lbs from bearing his kids he wanted would he still find me attractive?  After a year of marriage he found out that I can’t give him the son (Jr.) he anticipated would he stay committed?  Better yet, if after all I’ve done to, for  & with him if he saw a female with more assets; would the Mr. still be there?  These days most guys would choose the female that gives them more publicity vs the one with good stability.  Now just keeping it 100%, after he’s attained the house in a good community, good car and a great career; he’s going to want a female to best represent him in the public eye. To also reflect  his 360 degree level of success/accomplishments.  Now, the new chic might not even have good qualities and posses all the bad habits but because she’s cute in the face, slim in the waist, and phat in the right places that’s all she’s gonna need for a good living.  So, fellas, would you choose perception over foundation?  Can you be loyal to a shopaholic, big booty woman with conceited ways vs intellect, personality, & substance?

There are some men that I wouldn’t allow to come anywhere near me. Not because I’m stuck up or anything, but you can just tell that certain folks are a few nuggets short of a ten piece. Now, even though I try to stay far away from the coo coo clock brothas, their asses still end up finding me. I must have the words “Love Me Some Crazy” etched on my forehead, and only the deranged ones can see it. There are some chicks that actually think a man putting a knife to her throat is the sexiest thing in the world. That makes me wonder; is crazy the new sexy?

Personally, if anyone acted crazy around me got the GTFOH treatment. When I say that I mean… if you call me your ass will be totally disrespected. As you can read I don’t hold back my thoughts or my language so you’ll develop small feelings. If we are in the same place you besta not say shit to me *yea I said besta*. I will look at you like you were Eminem with ass on your face. I just have no time for ignorant crazy people. That shit is not sexy or attractive. Why the hell would you want to be known as the crazy dude that stalks chicks?

I know a few people *I won’t call names* that think a man calling her every 10 min checking on her whereabouts is sexy as hell. Or the chicks that think that a man accusing her of cheating all the time is worried that another man will take her away from him. No, he is accusing you of cheating because his ass is so paranoid to thinking that every man that comes 5ft in front of you wants to be with you. Well most of the time that is true, but he thinks you want to be with these people. He has developed in his mind that you’re not to be trusted, and you find that cute? I do sometimes promote not listening to your friends, but people if your friends try to tell you something is wrong with the person you’re with, please take their advice to heart. Sometimes folks on the outside looking in can provide us with much needed insight that we just can’t see ourselves.

Some people say that a man/woman caring deeply about their partner is sweet. It’s sweet until they start going over board with it. A person shouldn’t have to question the sanity of the person their involved with. That’s like going to the club and meeting a guy. History has shown us that getting involved with someone you have met in the club is not only stupid, but well it’s just damn stupid. You can never have a sound relationship because if you continue to go to the club he will think you going there to meet someone just the way you met him. Anyway crazy is defiantly not the new sexy, and if you think it is YOUR ASS IS JUST AS CRAZY AS YOUR BOO.

Holla at me: Do you think crazy is the new sexy, or only crazy people think it is?