Hi V.I.~

I’ve been going back an forth with my ex for 3 years. Although he said he loved me and I loved him, I was never completely happy. We had a drama- filled relationship. When I lost my job he wasn’t supportive so I cut him off for the 10th time. The last argument we had was 4 month ago when he was trying to get back with me and I decided to lie to him about dating someone. He got mad and told me that I was only a f*ck an a bunch of other things, so now after 4 months he called talking bout how much he miss an love me. I wont lie he was the best sex I ever had, so I had sex with him last week an told him to leave after. Now he calls an texts everyday. I really don’t want to be bothered with him because he has nothing to offer me. I want to tell him but don’t know how especially since I slept with him last week. Part of me wants to keep him for when I get an urge but my common sense side wants to tell him to go to hell.

Found Love In A Hopeless Dick

Dear FLIAHD,

Dicks are good and I do mean good, but not good enough to keep around knowing the other person is nothing but drama. It’s obvious that he’s in it for the sex or else if he really gave a got damn he would be supportive. He also said you’re just a f*ck so you don’t need Stevie Wonder to see that negro ain’t right. This isn’t someone you can have a “just sex” relationship with, because he’s nothing but situations. He’s playing with your emotions to keep you around. Girl game recognizes game. If you know you’re not into him or even want him, then why would you subject your p*ssy to his ass. He doesn’t deserve it.  Kick his ass out of your life. Ignore his texts and don’t answer his calls. Good dick will come and go, but sanity needs to be forever.

I really hope I’ve helped you in some way. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make the right one that will be in your best interest. Keep me posted.

Thanks

Ya’ll know I am somewhat of a ball breaker right, so there are just certain things I refuse to tolerate when it comes to men. I firmly believe men should act like GOD gave them common sense and not make me get gutta on their asses. I am as sweet as cotton candy, but there is just some bullshit that will make me dump your ass in a heartbeat. I try to give you fair warning before you decide to try me, but I guess some people just don’t get it as fast as others. This blog is dedicated to the men I dated and dumped. These are the reasons I dumped you. This one’s for you boo. *Marlo Hampton jailhouse wink*

6. Men Don’t Nag, Bitches Do~ I hate a nagging man. Yes, men nag too. I just don’t understand the need for it. Why you kept sweating me about dumb shit was beyond me. I tell you I’m out with my girls and you accuse me of cheating. You showed too many insecurities and frankly my dear that shit was a straight turn off. You moved like less than a man and more like a bitch. I don’t do weak fellows.

5. Hoes in Different Area Codes~ For some strange reason I always attracted the n*ggas that can’t help but have more than one chick on their roster. I’m assume having different women makes them feel like the man, but you sadly…you ain’t boo. I think I am that damn good that I didn’t need to share you with random women. Hell if you were gonna cheat on me you could’ve at least cheated with a chick that can make me say “Damn I see why he did it”. Don’t cheat with a Dollar Menu Cheeseburger bitch when you got Steak’ Ums at home.

4. Dead Dick Don’t Do Me~ Your dick didn’t work! It just laid there like a limp dish rag. Fool kill yo self…and any chick that told you, you had that good dick. Bitch wouldn’t know a good dick if it came up and slapped her in the face and did the Harlem Shake.

3. Weakness is an Acquired Taste~ I can’t stand a weak man. If you constantly showed your weakness I looked at you as less than a man. I love a confidence, and boo you never had it. How the f*ck you gonna say “I want to marry you, but I’m afraid you’re gonna cheat on me in 7 years”. First off, where the hell 7 years come from? Then you had the nerve to cry and ask me to promise not to cheat on you. Yo, when a man cries over bullshit he imagined I can’t help but chuckle. That back and forth trying to convince you otherwise mess just isn’t for me. If you don’t know where you stand with me, then maybe I’m not the woman for you.

2. Liar Liar, Dick on Fire~ I HATE LIARS. I HATE LIARS MORE THAN I HATE COMMUNISM. LOL. I just don’t understand why people gotta lie about everything. You told me “Oh that not my child. It’s my god-son. “. N*gga that’s your child. He looks like you gave birth to him your damn self.  What kind of fool you took me for. I must not have looked in the mirror often cause if I did I would have seen the word “Stupid ass” written on my forehead. One thing I hate is a man denying his child. That is some low ass shit. I’m glad that chick took your simple ass to child support. Lying for bullshit reasons.

1. Crazy Son of a Bitch~ *Blankness and Despair* It ain’t cute to be crazy. You actually dumped me and turned around and asked me why did I dump you *Taylor Swift confused look*. You seemed like a perfectly normal individual when we first met, then you started getting all “It rubs the lotion on its skin” crazy. That shit wasn’t a good look especially given the fact that you were a lot older than me and was “suppose” to be more mature. Chile stop!! Oh and by the by you had too much f*cking body hair. That shit is so gross. You looked like you were wearing a sweater…like all the time.

I can go on and on with this topic, but I have a life. I just wanted to list some of the reasons I might have left your awkward ass. I don’t know how I ever survived kicking it with you, but thank the lawd above I got the hell on. You don’t need a relationship, you need a team of doctor’s studying your stupidity. No normal woman should ever give ya’ll the time of day. All ya’ll need spiritual guidance.

Hi V.I.,

Who Knocked The Bottom Out? Chile when it comes to sex men and women can become deaf mutes if it’s being hit the right way. That powerful stroke can make your eyes roll to the back of your head and make you call out “God” in the middle of your sin-filled sexcapade. The right kinda sex ain’t no damn joke. Have you ever sat down and thought of who was the fan fav? Who was the person that gave it to you the right way. No matter how many bullshit dicks you done experienced every time you think of good peen you reflect on HIM. The one that made the pussy fuzz stand at attention by his touch or every time he kissed you the cream oozed down your right leg. Hopefully as grown ass women we have bucked up on at least 1 man that made having sex seem like the right thing to do.

I’ve discussed the “Three C’s in any successful relationships”: Commitment, Communication and Compromise. Although these three things can make or break any relationship Sexual Compatibility can also leave everything else seem like crap. Every woman and some men can think of that one person that had the bomb sex game. No matter what position he/she was able to bring it every time. Is that a good thing that you’ve had your best? In some situations I think it harms you if you really think about it. I’ve had my best and I just can’t get the feeling duplicated when I meet anyone else. It’s like you’ve had the best, so everything else just seems “ok.” Sure you’ve met some good one’s but on any rainy day you will rack your brain trying to remember the sex and just can’t. Now, when you think of the bottom knocker you remember damn near every move. How you screamed his name in the fit of ecstasy. How the neighbors complained to the leasing office cause your ass got a little too loud during the oral sex portion of the evening. The fact is when you’ve had your best you can’t really appreciate the rest.

If you haven’t had the pleasure of meeting that “one” then I’m sorry for you and the life for which you live. I mean sex is only for a time, but spending that good hour in absolute heaven can just make all the wrong things in this world seem right. People think the best sex is just the penetration part, it’s sometimes more than that. I consider best sex is when the person isn’t trying to be the best. It’s the chemistry felt when he touched you or kissed you the right way. No matter what your mood that person can always make you feel right. For me good sex equates to good touch. I’m a touchy feely person; you touch me the right way and wala magic panties instantly removed but it has to be done by the right person. No matter how you wish the feeling of with that one can be duplicated with another person, it just doesn’t happen. He knocked the bottom out now no matter who penetrates, good sex just doesn’t feel the same.

Holla at me: Have you already met your best sex?

Ladies, sometimes you gotta learn when to move the hell on. I know it’s rough when you’re in love and blah blah blah, but if he’s treating you like day old bread it might be time to kiss his dumb ass goodbye. There are so many women out here that put up with way too much shit. It’s like if he ain’t treating you wrong then the relationship just ain’t right. I’ve learned that no matter how much you wish someone could treat you better, it’s not gonna happen if you’ve allowed them to mistreat you. Some people stay wishing that shit would change, but like I always say a man won’t change unless something major happens and he decides to change. Other than that you crying every other day about the shit he constantly does to you isn’t gonna help your situation.

When it comes to breaking up with someone it’s seems like people are too worried about hurting feelings. Hell a break-up ain’t suppose to be all butterflies and rainbows boo. The shit stings!!! I personally tell the truth no matter how hurtful it may be to the other person. We’re breaking up so there must have been something you did to me, so why should I make sure your feelings are intact? Then there are some times depending on how you feel about the other person you kinda hint that you want to break up, but you don’t really come right out and say it. You’re so scared to say “It’s over” then hear them say “Cool”. You really don’t wanna let go but you really want to. If you see yourself in a situation where you’re ready to move on, here are a few tips to help you get them out of your system.

1. Delete, Delete, Delete~ Never ever ever keep the phone number of the person you just dumped. I have to delete numbers, texts, emails and shit because god forbid I have a weak moment and call…looking like a fool. You want to give yourself time to heal. Ain’t nothing worse than going out with your girls drinking a few shots of Patron and drunk dialing that n*gga’s phone at 4 in the damn morning. Crying and shit talking about you still love him and you don’t know why he can’t act right. Not only is that embarrassing, but half the time you don’t remember you did it until your girlfriend reminds you the next day. *sigh* I may have did this once or twice in my hay day.

2. How Much “Closure”You Need?~ Women have this thing about getting closure. Once it’s done it’s done. Closure is just another word for one last f*ck before I have the courage to f*ck another. It’s an excuse to have the ex in the same room as you. Yea you may argue and scream, but half the time the next thing to pop off is your bra. Let go of the “closure” excuse. You know, I know and he knows all you want is one last stab from his mighty dick head.

3. Memories Live, But Not Right Now~ If you’re in the process of getting over a break up, having pictures of happier times plastered on the wall isn’t really gonna help with the transition. I’m not saying you gotta destroy them, but put them in a place where you don’t have immediate access…like the box in the back of your shoe closet. Having all these reminders about the better days won’t help you move on at all.

4. You’re Still Alive, So Live That Life~ When women and some men face a break-up they wanna stay in the house in the same funky pajama, listening to Ready for Love by India Arie on repeat, while crying your eyes out while you look at his picture. Yes you do need time to grieve over the death of your relationship, but how long is too long? Wash that funky cooch and get the hell out of the house. Call your girls and do something fun. Hell the first thing black folk do after a break up is go to the club. Hell do that…just do something that allows you to take your mind off of him. The minute you see a cutie flirt with his ass. I’m not saying you gotta get all biblical with him, but a little casual flirting never hurt nobody.

5. Find A Flunky Quick~ This does not apply to everyone, but there are some people out there that just need a male body around. I don’t suggest jumping into a relationship or anything sexual, but hey if you wanna rub that noni on some dude go right ahead. I think when you’ve just gotten out of something you need time for yourself. You know…let the heart rest before putting anyone else in the mix. I know it’s not about feelings, only feeling the head of another but sometimes our heart confuses feelings. I don’t want you to run the risk of confusing sexy feelings for love feelings. Then you get hurt all over again, cause a rebound is just that…he’s there to  bounce on until you’re ready to date again.

There are so many different methods when it comes to getting over someone. You just need to remember that it’s about moving on. It will be hard at first, but as time goes by you will think of him less. Well until you’re out one night and you see him with another girl. Wouldn’t you be so happy that instead of crying your eyes out at the crib eating Chunky Monkey ice cream, you took that energy got into the gym and now your rocking that damn Amber Rose body? While his chick damn near sporting  a triple chin  he’s looking at you like “Damn she never looked that fine when she was with me”. Let’s be honest the best revenge…f*cking his head up witcho fine self.

Holla at me: What is one of the things you do after a break-up?

Sounds enticing huh?

Lets face the facts. If you’re a woman, then I’m pretty much sure at some point in time you’ve had ANOTHER woman offer her “sacred” advice on how to “effectively” KEEP a man. You know the girl who carries her “How To Keep A Man Handbook” in her purse. And in most cases these SAME women are the very bitches who haven’t seen a hard dick since prom night.

Well, I’m here with a vengeance and I’m knocking down some of you dick deprived bitches doors. I get sick and tired of seeing women play “victim” after every failed relationship, blaming their misfortunes on the world and categorizing their last sorry man with EVERY man. I despise women with the “n*ggas ain’t shit” syndrome, and trust me I’m speaking from experience because I too, use to carry that trait.

Let me introduce you ladies to the phrase in which I like to call Pussy On A Platter. It’s a known fact that there is power in the pussy. This is nothing new. There is nothing wrong with feeling EMPOWERED by your pussy. But I hate to be the bearer of bad news and this may be devastating to some. Marinate on these words for a second…

PUSSY…AIN’T..NEVER…KEPT…NO…MAN

OK sweetie, take slow, long deep breaths into the brown paper bag, you can’t be hyperventilating on my watch…you good now? Cool, lets continue…

The following quote is dedicated to the misguided woman who thinks f*cking & sucking a nigga until he’s busting Guinness Book worthy nuts; will keep that man from straying.

“Pussy is only Pussy, and I get it when I need it” ~Drake

Words written by a man, simple but clever with his approach. It’s the TRUTH, ACCEPT it. A lot of us do WAY too much harvesting on insignificant shit that we become blinded when the obvious is dead in our faces.

I was in a relationship where I believed being “submissive” to my man would fulfill his appetite. Physically & Emotionally. Whatever he wanted, nine times outta ten I obliged. And I did it because I felt like if he wasn’t being satisfied completely then he’d find it somewhere else. Well guess what? He did. The flood gates of infidelity STILL came seeping in. But how could this be? I was serving him up with a well sautéed entree of pussy on a regular.

I had to stop and ask myself, exactly what was I gaining from the situation. I enjoyed his company, his outlook on life, he was ambitious about his future. But in the midst of all of it I was neglecting…ME….I was so consumed with his feelings that I forgot about my own. All the time I thought I had him wrapped around my pussy, I was blinded by the fact that I allowed him to control me. And that, was destined for failure. I got a grip on what was holding me back, I let it go and moved on. Most importantly I learned from it.

Bottom line, you can listen, take advice from one of your “girls” but until you realize the value of your pussy, you’ll end up dry every time.

No matter how many times you tell yourself your New Year’s Resolution will be to lose weight it never happens as you planned it. You join a gym,  go hard for the first month and the second you see your pre-precious jeans start to fit a little better you stop. You want to get to the size you were before you discovered Papa John’s  cheesesticks, but you just can’t take another diet. Well one of the best ways to work that body out is to let someone work you out. Sex is probably one of the best forms of exercise. Think about it; you work damn near every muscle when he has your ass up in the air and he’s pumping you full of lead. Basically when you’re engaged in sexual activity you burn calories, in turn you have a healthier you.

Now when I say have sex I don’t want you ladies to think all you gotta do is lie there and let this man do all the work. Sex is not a spectator sport. You gotta get in there and wear his ass out…you gotta let him see you sweat. Have you ever wondered why your legs hurt when you’re finished? If done right you’re working out those muscles. Now if you haven’t had sex for a while and you get back on that saddle you may notice something. Let’s say you’re about to ride and you’re doing your thing and all of a sudden you get a damn leg cramp. Ladies, you know what I’m talking about. The shit so bad you gotta stop, wait a while then change positions. That’s a tell tale sign that you ain’t had no worthy dick in a while.

Ok, I’m not saying you gotta go out and screw every Tom, Dick and Raheem to become physically fit. I’ve learned if you’re involved with one person and you two go at it on a very regular basis you will start to see a change in your body. Dr.Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert at FOX suggests longer session at least five times a week can burn around 1650 calories. She also added that, “The active partner- typically the one on top tends to burn more.” So you know what you gotta do ladies…ride that dick like you never rode before. The main key when it comes to this is enjoyment. You have to enjoy your partner in order to put in the work. If you’re not sexually attracted to the one you’re with, there is no way in hell you’re gonna enjoy the sex. The more attraction between you two the more you’re both more likely to apply effort.

So if you want to work that body out without going to the gym 5 days a week, try having regular pleasurable sex. Not only does sex aid in weight loss, but it also helps with stress. I know when I was having sex *sigh* I sure wasn’t thinking about not one damn bill I had to pay. It was a way to forget about my issues and just take my frustration out on someones boy child. I hope I’ve taught you a little something today. So put down the damn jelly donuts, call your boo thang on your lunch break and go get you some. You will be burning those calories and showing your man that his girl is a just a freak. You know the older you get day time sex gets less and  less right?

Hey V.I.,

So I met this guy a few months ago and we hit it off exceptionally well every quickly. We communicated a lot and I really liked this guy. By his actions I assumed the feeling were mutual and eventually I had sex with him. After doing so I immediately regretted it because I wasn’t comfortable with the fact that I slept with this guy and he wasn’t my boyfriend. After I told him we could only be friends (no benefits) he stopped hitting me up as much and kind of gave me the cold shoulder. I deleted his number, all our messages, and any other thing that would remind me of him.

However I cant get him out of mind, I think about him all the time. I try to force myself to brush it off, or to pretend hate him just so I can get him out of my mind; but I can’t. Does this mean Im in love with the guy? Several guys have tried to get with me but I always measure them up to him and they don’t add up, so I don’t take them serious. He was truly the best I ever had not just in the sack but really his attitude and  personality.  Why cant I get over this kid? How can I get over him.

Rejected by a Reject

Dear RBAR,

You’re not in love with him, you’re just reacting to his reaction. In other words, you want someone who doesn’t want you. He was attentive at first and you loved that. The second you gave him some and pulled it back, he got gone. Now that he’s not giving you the attention that he did before you can’t stop thinking about him. You slept with him because you wanted to sleep with him. It’s nothing to be ashamed about. You started regretting it and by pulling away and telling him you won’t do him anymore, it probably made him feel like pure shit. I know that wasn’t your intention, but look at it from his side. Would you want to remain close with someone who gave you dick and then said “No more f*cking we can be just friends.” That’s kind of hurtful.

One thing I want you to remember. Anytime you decide to have sex with someone, own up to your decision. Don’t regret the whole thing the next day. You wanted to f*ck because you were feeling him. Period. You said you felt bad because he wasn’t your boyfriend. Well he wasn’t your man before you slept with him, but you still decided to do it. All I’m saying is every action has a positive and a negative reaction. After sexing someone then deciding to take it back makes no sense. I can see if you did it and the sex was wack, maybe then you could have regretted the dick. Going in head first knowing what you knew in the beginning only shows me that you were afraid he looked at you differently the second you gave it up.

This is a classic situation with women. Hell I’ve been in this very situation. Now you’re more emotionally invested now that they’ve basically gone the other way. You’ve gotten to the point where this is affecting any other prospects and in turn you can end up missing a really good thing. If he has pushed you to the side just let him be. I know it’s not easy for someone to tell you this, but you’re wasting your time thinking of someone that ain’t thinking about you. You’re not in love, you just feel like his changing is all your fault. You actually feel guilty now you’re projecting that feeling of guilt into a feeling of love. Until you realize what you’re doing, you will never “get over him.” There is no magic words I can tell you or nothing that I can tell you to do that will instantly make you get over him. You gotta realize what happened and decide to let it go. Everything happens for a reason, and this just happened to be one of those instances.

Now if he pushed you away because all he wanted was the sex and you decided to make it difficult to become a regular sex buddy, that’s all on him. Why would you even want someone who only wanted to stick his thing in your lady parts? I’m not saying that’s all it was, but you also have to look at that aspect. I still think he felt rejected and in turn gave you that cold shoulder…again if it was you would you blame him?

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

Dear V.I.,

Me and my fiancé have been together for over 3 years. He has a child and his baby mama is crazy. So not only do I have to deal with her but I can not stand his mother! He’s her ONLY child and apparently no one is ever good enough for her son. She never liked any of his girlfriends until they became exes. It bothers me that she still keeps in contact with ALL his ex girl friends from childhood and high school and some even call her “mom”. They send her gifts, flowers and perfume all the time. One even moved to the town she lives in just to be close to her. It really bothers me because some of his exes I’ve known before even meeting him and I don’t like them. I feel like it’s offensive to both me and him and it truly does bother my fiancé to the point where it makes him want nothing to do with his mother. She even went as far to sit and talk about me for days and how nobody in the family likes me, with this girl I thought was my friend.

Apparently the family doesn’t like me because they feel like I have my fiancé one way and he does any and everything for me. But isn’t that the kind of man you’d want to marry? When my fiancé tells his mother about herself she always tries to apologize to me but I’m to the point where I don’t want to hear it. She claims she does like me and she never told my fiancé that she didn’t like me but her actions prove differently. We even went to visit her awhile back and she put pictures of him and his baby mama all over the room and my fiancé HATES his baby mama. He’s always taking her to court. I’m just to the point where I hate his whole family. My mother tells me I need to work it out with her because that’s his mother but I really don’t want nothing to do with his side of the family. My fiancé understands how I feel and doesn’t force me to have a relationship with her but deep down I feel bad. And sometimes I don’t want him to have anything to do with his side either. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Caught Between A Rock And A Hard Place

Dear CBARAAHP,

Unfortunately, you’re assed out. His momma will forever look at you as the enemy. You’re taking her only child away from her. You see it’s a pattern she has shown over the years. If he’s in a relationship she can’t stand the girlfriend until she becomes the ex. The ex is no longer a threat to her relationship with her son. You’re a different case because you’re now the fiance. The one who he wants to be with for the long-haul. She isn’t and will probably never like or accept you. Should you care? Maybe. Should you let that affect your life with him? Hell no?

This is the one thing that breaks a lot of relationships, someone in the family doesn’t like or approve of the relationship. At the end of the day you cannot worry about how others feel towards you. If she doesn’t like you then tough, you’re in the picture so she has to deal with it and STFU. She’s just a mother threatened that her only child is gonna leave her behind. She’s not the main woman in his life anymore. That’s actually very common, so don’t feel like it’s just something about you. Your fiance is right not to force you to have a relationship with his mother. You cannot make someone like you…period. There is nothing you can do to make her change her mind. Yea she may smile up in your face, but she will most likely talk about you behind your back. I say deal with her on a need basis. If you have to be around her be respectful, but still hold your ground. She doesn’t have to like you, but her ass will have to respect you.

As far as the ex’s screw them hoes. Who cares if they still contact the mom. As long as your man is doing right by you, who gives a f*ck what his momma doing? That should not concern you. If your man is standing up for you that means a lot girl. Don’t let their petty bullshit cloud your mind. If you have a good man hold onto him. You’re in the picture whether they like it or not. You’re the one with the ring and although you feel like public enemy #1, you’re the one that they’re jealous of so don’t sweat the small stuff.

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

I never understood why women and men for that matter go into the whole process of trying to trap someone. What the hell kind of sense does it make to have a baby with someone that either 1). The person doesn’t want to be with you. 2) Someone you’re just f*cking and think if you get pregnant, you will instantly become their partner. It seems like when some people aren’t too confident in their relationship, but they don’t wanna end it they think if they get pregnant they have no choice but to stay. I just find all of this as the dumbest  logic anyone can ever come up with. I know women and men that thought trapping the other person was a good idea, and then quickly realized that they made a huge mistake. Through all of this the children have to suffer because they have two of the dumbest people alive to call mom and dad. I got two stories. One where the man did the trapping and the other where the woman did the trapping.

One of my friends loves light skin chicks. I mean this man would f*ck a chick with your dick as long as she was light skinned. He met this girl and he fell in love. Now ol’ girl liked him, but girl was still doing her own thing. The girl decided that she wanted to move on and decided to end the relationship. He tried everything he could to keep her, but she just didn’t want to stay. Apparently they were still having sex and he decided to tamper with the condom. Now he is telling me this story and I’m looking at him in disgust. I have never ever heard a guy do this foul shit before. So he did what he did to the condom and a month later she called him and said that she’s pregnant. Now he’s excited because his plan worked, and she said they should try to work things out. Fast forward to present day…Their daughter is now 3 years old. The parents are no longer together. Matter of fact they can’t stand each other. He tries to say he regrets doing what he did, but that would also mean he regrets his daughter; which he doesn’t. He is stuck to this woman for the rest of his life because he thought this permanent solution would resolve his temporary problem. They fight constantly about ways to raise the child and how much time he should spend with her. See what happens when you think with something other than your brain?

There is this chick…I’m sorry to say but she has scattered features. When I say that I’m basically saying she’s not on the attractive side. So she met this very attractive guy. She basically sold herself to him as a jump-off. She was that chick that would give dudes money and buy them things, so he took it. One night for one of their sessions she decided to poke holes in the condoms. Now she always had  condoms, so he thought nothing of it when she wiped them out. So you know the story…she got pregnant. Now she’s telling him that she’s pregnant and his response was “Why are you telling me”? His whole logic was, yea they were fucking, but he always wore a condom. Plus, his GIRL would flip if he was the father. Now this girl didn’t know ol’ boy had a girl to begin with. Now she is pregnant by a man that basically disowned her. Fast forward to present day…he took a paternity test and it was concluded that he is the father of their child. She took him to child support and he is being forced to pay for a child that’s his. She complains on his ass all the time, saying he doesn’t even spend time with the child. IF YO DUMB ASS THOUGHT TRAPPING HIM MADE SENSE, YOU DESERVE TO BE IN THIS MESS.

I just think you get more than you bargained for when you do something like that. The idea might seem good at the time, but at that moment you’re blinded by what you want the person to be. Just because you get pregnant doesn’t mean he’s gonna stop cheating or act right. If he does straighten up, he only does it because morally he’s got to do right by his kid. Then you have the one’s that don’t contribute shit in the child’s upbringing. So all that trapping was for what? I know you have a beautiful bundle of joy out of it, but wouldn’t it have been better if the baby was with someone that actually loved you back? The game isn’t worth it in my opinion. The only people that suffer are the children.

Holla at me: Have you ever know anyone that trapped someone? If so, what was the outcome of the relationship?