Are You A Present Friend?

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Are you a present friend? A friend that cares about the people close to you? Are you there for your friends for the good times and bad? Are you the person that encourages your friends when they need it, but also can tell them the harsh truth when it’s required? Unfortunately, not all friendships are that way. Some friendships are hella one-sided. Where the friendship feels more like a task and less organic. You only hear from them when they need to complain about the same things they complained about last year.  Never acknowledging what you may be going through. Those friends are not friends. They’re the people in your life that hold on to you for their own benefit. Why allow a friend who isn’t present in your friendship continue to use the friendship to keep you present?

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Vintage: Friends Before Lovers? Should You Be Friends First?

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We all know a couple that have been long time friends and then decided to take their friendship to another level. They’re both single and get along great, so why not see if they can actually date? Many say it’s an easy transition from friends to lovers. A relationship works better if you’ve developed a friendship before becoming intimate. I do agree, but damn what if the relationship doesn’t work out the way you’d hoped. Can you easily go back to being “just friends”?

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My Boyfriend’s Other Relationship

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What do you do when your boyfriend has another love in his life? This relationship brings out all of his emotions. He can get excited and 15 mins later gets angry and disappointment when things don’t happen his way. He’s in love with sports. *Sigh* that’s the situation I am currently in right now. My boyfriend loves sports.  When I say love I mean LOVEEEEEE. If he could devote his life to one thing in this world, it just might be that. Don’t get me wrong, I think sports are ok but I just don’t see the intense fascination with it. Big burly strapping men just falling on each other trying to get control of a ball. It sounds kinda childish to me. Since it’s football season and he loves football, many women might be going through the same thing I am. Being in a relationship with a man who’s also in a relationship with his favorite sport. Why do men treat sports like a second relationship?

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Label-less Relationship: Why Isn’t He Calling You His Girlfriend?

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Are you into relationship labels? Do you feel like once you’ve been chose, you want the whole world to know it? For many women that is a common assertion. If you’re involved with someone and it’s just you and them, making it official is the next logical step right? What if he doesn’t believe in labeling what you two have going on? You’ve been in this stage for months and you’re still just considered friends. What can be the reason he’s not into labeling the relationship? 

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Has Sex Become A Chore?


One thing about relationships that most people experience is that comfortable period. You’ve been in the relationship for a while and things become a little routine. When trying to balancing a relationship, work and kids some things may falter. The most common issue in most relationships is lack of sex. When it comes to putting the coochie on him you may not always be in the mood. It’s common to feel that way especially if you’re constantly on the go. It’s to the point where you give him just enough where he’s satisfied and you don’t have to hear him complain. Sex has become your chore.  It isn’t something that you want to do, but something you feel you have to do to please him. 

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Downfalls of Losing Yourself In A Relationship

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The one thing that hinders us in life is losing ourselves. The person who you’ve grown to become is now unsure of who she is and her purpose. Now imagine losing yourself while in a relationship. Putting other’s opinions “suggestions” ahead of your own. Allowing their notions about your life, stop you from being who you’ve always been…YOU. It’s so easy to divert from who you are when starting out a new relationship. You take the constant ideas and suggestions of your partner, not realizing that you’re changing to suit their needs. Losing who you’ve always been to a person you no longer recognize. Losing yourself not only affect your “relationship” but your entire life.

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