Please help me!! Me and this guy are sex buddies and I’m honestly cool with that like I know what it is when he calls me and vise versa but it’s getting old that he hasn’t caught feelings yet usually I have to beg guys to leave me alone and this guy is just different… I don’t want anything special like a relationship I don’t even want to be a sideline and spend the night every once in a while I just want him wrapped around my finger…. PLEASEEEEEEE tell me how I can get him to get like that and obviously the sex isn’t gonna be the answer to that because he can have ANY girl I need to know some psychological shit I can do to have him hooked on me please get back to me soon!!
I just love to hear men give their honest opinions about this thing called relationships. So I was put on to this video series “Gentlemen Uncensored”on one of my favorite sites Madamenoire.com. It’s GROWN AZZ men discussing sex, relationships and marriage. You know I am here for it. I always want to know what goes through the male mind when it comes to these topics, and I guess the good people of Madamenoire.com heard my cry.
The panel consists of 6 men with different relationship perspectives. You have Harold “The Youngin”, DJ CEO “Mr. Complicated”, Carlos “The Divorce’ “, Ainsley “The Non-Commiter”, TMor “The Married Man” and Chris Kazi Rolle “The Convo Starter”.
Check out episode 1 of Gentlemen Uncensored: Why Did I Get Married. You can check out moreepisodeson their page over at Madamenoire, theiryoutubechannel and “like” their Facebook page . I’m positive you will get an eye opening experience when you watch the videos.
At one time or another everyone *well I don’t know about everyone* has had a physical relationship with someone they considered a friend. You know friends with benefits. You got that itch you need scratch and you call good ol Bob over to occupy your vagina for a few hours then go home. No emotions, no cuddling and no talking just two friends f*cking and calling it a night. Yea it always seems that simple until the second you get comfortable in whatever you consider that situation to be, and some shit happens that changes the whole dynamic. Now your no strings attached relationship all of a sudden has some very visible strings. So are you just hiding your strings in a or do they develop once the sex happens?
What’s your definition of good GREAT sex? Everyone’s answers might be different, but the goal is the same. Great sex is the type of sex that makes you want to put everything in that motherfucker’s name. Lol iKid. The dick so damn good that you would get up at 2 am in the dead of winter and run outside to turn on his car so it can heat up for his ass. Great sex is the type of sex that make you say “fuck them bitches” when your girlfriends call you to go out to the club. Great sex is the type of sex that has your legs wobbling, sweat dripping off your titty and new hair do gone to hell but you still suck his dick as a fucking “thank you” just for being fucking you. When a man knows how to do it just right it can make every sex session feel like damn Thanksgiving.
My boyfriend and I have great great great SEX!!! But one HUGE problem-he doesn’t cum. We could go for 2 hours and he still won’t! ! He came once in our whole 9 month relationship and I just believe it was built up and we hadn’t had sex for about 4 weeks. We have sex often and he tells me over and over its amazing and I have the best p**** hes ever had (which I’m confident is true after stories he told me about past 3 girls) but I don’t get it! My ex was a total 1 minute quitter!!! So its refreshing to have a guy with stamina out of this world but still I wanna gt him off. I give him head for an 1 hour and a half till my jaw was numb and he still didn’t! !! I can even sometimes feel him close but he just doesn’t hes even said he gets real close to cumming but doesn’t Idk what to do tried various positions and i tried my best tricks! He thinks it has to do with his only masturbating for a year but idk….help!!!!!
Can’t make him nut
Girl what’s wrong with your man’s dick? Lol iKid iKid. Just trying to lighten the mood. I know how you’re feeling right now, because this would make any woman sorta question her abilities You start to take it a little personal. The goal in sex is to make your partner buss that well deserved nut and when we’ve gotten ours and they don’t get theirs we feel guilty. The good news is it might not be you. If he’s had this issue in previous situations with other women he might have an actual sexual condition calledDelayed Ejaculation.
Delayed ejaculation is a medical condition in which a male cannot ejaculate, either during intercourse or by manual stimulation with a partner. Ejaculation is when semen is released from the penis.
You stated that he only masturbated for a year; that actually can be the reason why he’s now having difficulties cumming during sex. It might be a nerve issue and he might need to see a urologist to get tested.
I know it’s difficult, but once he finds out exactly what the issue is this string of dryness may continue. I know most men don’t like to go to the doctor especially if it involves their beloved dicks, but I think this is something that needs to be addressed.
If your man is open to this idea I want you to try something. If you have a vibrator, bullet or some other thing that vibrates at a rapid pace place it in that area. If nothing happens and he’s still having the same issue he might have a problem with his nervous system. He needs to seek help from a professional. Hopefully things work out for him.
I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!
There is nothing sexier than some of that bomb emotionally charged sex. The type of sex where you put all your strength into it to achieve the might ass orgasm you so desperately crave. It’s not all slow kisses and light touching. It’s hair pulling, ass spanking and grunting if the shit feels right. This kind of loving isn’t for the weak bodied individuals. You have to be able to show your kinky side in order to enjoy the beauty that is kink. What if you’re not into such activities but your man loves it? When your about to have sex he becomes sexually controlling. Telling what to do, being a little aggressive maybe even whispering dirty shit in your ear in a stern yet sexy voice. If you weren’t into that kind of kink but you love him; could you stay?
Like I said before, not everyone is into that kind of lovin. You have to be willing to give up a little control and go with the flow. Not saying you have to allow him to disrespect you in any kind of way, but you do have to be open. The first time I experienced this type of situation I was scared shitless. Not that I was scared or anything, I was unsure what the hell I was supposed to do. He was forceful and I was timid. He picked up up and plopped me on the bed. I’m looking around because I wasn’t sure if I should be concerned, kick him in the balls and run for the door or moan in ecstasy. I was so used to that dry sex shit, I was unschooled in the ways of sexual control. When he started and I started loosening up I was actually more turned on than I thought I could be. I allowed myself to be a little more open and allowed him to have control. Every stroke felt deeper than the last. His hands in my hair tugging at it with medium pressure. Listen here; I thought I was going to explode. It was like a sexual awakening. I was no longer just having sex because it was something I thought I was suppose to do. That night I was having sex for the intense pleasure and it was wonderful. I allowed myself to open up and try it once. If I wasn’t into it, I would tell him that it wasn’t something I wanted to do on a regular basis. If he failed to acknowledge the fact that I wasn’t down, then no more for me.
The point is you can’t knock something, you’ve failed to try. Obviously you have limits and boundaries you might not want to cross, and that could be easily explained. Like I don’t care how playful we are you will not slap my face. Fuck that shit if you slap me even lightly protect your nuts cause they’re the first thing I’m attacking. I don’t give any type of fux how intense the shit is, if you slap me we got a got damn problem. I make that shit clear from jump, because I know what I’m not comfortable doing. Getting back to the sex, this can bring a different energy to your love making. Some couples are so bored with the regular missionary style and they’re afraid to venture out. If he loves it and you don’t let him know. If he refuses to compromise with you, then handle it how you see fit. If you love it and want more of it, but he’s reluctant let him know. Some chicks want to be choked and scared as shit to open their mouths and say something. By the by…please use a safety word. Don’t want ya’ll passing out in the middle of the dick and shit.
Holla at me: Have you ever been in a sexually controlled relationship? Were you the controller or the controlle?
Ok, so I understand sometimes in the moment of passion things don’t always go as planned. Maybe the position you’re in isn’t the most comfortable and you have to stop for a second to make sure your leg isn’t asleep. You’re having sex with your girlfriend and low and behold out of nowhere your wife shows up. Hell maybe you’re in the middle of getting the best dick of your life and where comes your 5 year old walking in on mommy getting throttled by the maintenance man. Yea there are some mishaps that can happen during a night of deep penetration, but just imagine in the first five minutes of said penetration his dick muscles deflate. You’re left looking at this man like “Why in the hell did I allow your simple ass dick loving into my perfectly precious puss?” Instantly when a man disappoints us sexually in bed we automatically look at him like he’s the scum of the earth. Then he says something to try make himself look less like Quick Draw Mcgraw “Damn girl your shit was so damn good look what you made me do.” So he’s trying to make you feel better about your pussy game by telling you, you’re shit is just that damn good. Ok yea it may be that good, but every time he gets close to it he let’s go of a load? Is it ok for him to be too turned on by you or is he just too quick with you?
Foreplay can sometimes be the most underrated thing when it comes to sex. Some folks just want to get down to the sticking and bypass all the licking. Getting your partner all hot and heavy is the best way to guarantee the bomb ass night of pussy popping. Then you have some people that do a little lick here and a little kiss there and expect that shit to fly. NOPE ERRRKKKSSSSS! STOP THE PRESS! There is no way in Hell-O KITTY that you gonna give me a dry ass kiss then expect to stick your Kilimanjaro in my flowing river of passion.
There are many things that you can do to make the foreplay experience like you just fucked the molasses out of her. You don’t always have to start out the same way….kiss, lick right nipple, suck breast, and lick left and so on. Going to the “hot spots” right away leave little to the imagination. Start off by massaging on each other. Full body massages are always great because not only are you touching on everything, you making you partner feel more relaxed. *When I say full body I mean it. Massage the feet, head, ass cheeks; everything* Another good foreplay move is to talk to your boo. There is nothing sexier than to hear a man say “Baby, I can’t wait to taste you on my tongue”. Speak the hell up, this ain’t no spectator sport. Ladies, if he says something dirty to you, don’t look at him like he just told you he fucked a goat; join in on the conversation.
Fellas, before thinking about sticking your awaiting peen in her gaping hole*giggles* make sure she is actually wet enough for it. It pains me to see a man rushing to get it in, and I am as dry as a prostitute working the day shift. Not only does it show lack of experience of the female body, but THAT SHIT HURTS. After your whole foreplay session your girl will be so wet that she might just push that dick in herself. This is when you give her what she needs. If by some chance she gets uninspired in the middle of it, and all the juice disappears; there is nothing wrong with going back to the foreplay to get her excited again. Show her that you’re more than a handsome face and a dick longer than a $5 foot long. Pleasing her allows her to please you. That’s what sex should be about anyway. Right?
I’ve heard this time and time again; crazy bitches got the best pussy. I always wondered what was it that made men attracted to women that ain’t got the good sense God gave em, but now it all makes sense. The drama-filled, bipolar, can’t get right pussy must be something to write home about. You ever known a man with a crazy bitch? I mean this woman stresses this man out to no end, but he stays with her and you wonder why? Cause she got that fiyah. I always wondered how these same men know the bitch crazy and marry her anyway. I thought it was because men loved a challenge, naw cause that coochie keeps em trapped.
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