Being faithful isn’t easy. Hell if it was then there would be a lot more happy relationships and a lot less cheating. When someone decides to cheat they have totally disconnected from their committed relationship. Let’s just get this straight. Cheating is not only a physical act. If you stepped outside of your relationship and developed an emotional connection to someone other than your partner that is cheating also. So many people feel like if the dick didn’t present itself then you’re not guilty of stepping outside your relationship. Girl goodbye. The second you became emotionally attached you’ve just cheated on your man/woman. Why does it seem that it’s easier to find someone who has cheated than to find someone who has never cheated in a relationship?
I just started reading your blog & I love it! I need some advice. I’m one of those females who loves knowing what they’re doing in bed. So when I’m not having sex with my boyfriend, I’m looking up topics like “Ways to make your man cum faster” or “Tips for riding dick.” And I’ve found some really good tips and whatnot. All I want to know now is how to introduce them to my man. I feel as if I tell him he needs to this or do that will knock him off his high horse of being a “sexpert”.
The main thing I want to teach him is how to make me squirt. I know how to make myself squirt, btw.
I died when I watched this video. A news reporter interviewed a 100 year old Great-Grandmother for her birthday. The reporter tried to ask her about her birthday and what it means to her and all Nana can talk about was dick. She even asked him how big was his dick and how does it hang. I swear the elderly just say whatever and give no solid fuck how it sounds. I live for her tho, still appreciates the value of good dick. Her family was embarrassed tho, but Nana was having a good time talking bout dick and shit. One of her family members even promised her “a lil dick” if she did the interview right. Lol. I just love old people.
Well I just found your candy diaries today. And I was just reading on your article on friends with benefits … and you have amazing advice! So I was hoping you could maybe find some time to help me on the topic ? It would mean the world. Well to start from the beginning I’ve had this guy who I was on and off with a couple of years ago. We’ve known each other for 7 years.. and three years ago we lost our virginity to each other. Ever since then we’ve been friends with benefits. And we made a deal that we’d only be with each other, and no one else. So for this long now we’ve just had each other. He says he doesn’t wanna be with me. Now I’m on the chubbier side. But his sister (who happens to be my best friend) he’s opened up and told that he’d be with me if I lost weight. Everyone knows were friends with benefits but that he doesn’t wanna be with me. So it’s not like I’m a hidden secret. So back to my story, we’ve been at this for three years. And after he says he doesn’t wanna ‘be with me’ he gets mad at me if he thinks I’m with other guys, questions if I’ve been with other guys, wants to know where I’m at, what I’m doing who I’m with etc… I’m so confused. After all of this he’s sooo mean to me half the time … its like he’s super bipolar. But I need help on what I should think of the situation or do? .. to this day if we go to hook up, we still make sure that neither of us has hooked up with anyone else (which we haven’t) . And on top of that he hasn’t dated anyone since the first time we ever hooked up …. When it’s just me and him he can be so sweet to me like he still cares like he used to, but in front of people he acts cold… help! Pleaseeeeee!
Please help me!! Me and this guy are sex buddies and I’m honestly cool with that like I know what it is when he calls me and vise versa but it’s getting old that he hasn’t caught feelings yet usually I have to beg guys to leave me alone and this guy is just different… I don’t want anything special like a relationship I don’t even want to be a sideline and spend the night every once in a while I just want him wrapped around my finger…. PLEASEEEEEEE tell me how I can get him to get like that and obviously the sex isn’t gonna be the answer to that because he can have ANY girl I need to know some psychological shit I can do to have him hooked on me please get back to me soon!!
I just love to hear men give their honest opinions about this thing called relationships. So I was put on to this video series “Gentlemen Uncensored”on one of my favorite sites Madamenoire.com. It’s GROWN AZZ men discussing sex, relationships and marriage. You know I am here for it. I always want to know what goes through the male mind when it comes to these topics, and I guess the good people of Madamenoire.com heard my cry.
The panel consists of 6 men with different relationship perspectives. You have Harold “The Youngin”, DJ CEO “Mr. Complicated”, Carlos “The Divorce’ “, Ainsley “The Non-Commiter”, TMor “The Married Man” and Chris Kazi Rolle “The Convo Starter”.
Check out episode 1 of Gentlemen Uncensored: Why Did I Get Married. You can check out moreepisodeson their page over at Madamenoire, theiryoutubechannel and “like” their Facebook page . I’m positive you will get an eye opening experience when you watch the videos.
At one time or another everyone *well I don’t know about everyone* has had a physical relationship with someone they considered a friend. You know friends with benefits. You got that itch you need scratch and you call good ol Bob over to occupy your vagina for a few hours then go home. No emotions, no cuddling and no talking just two friends f*cking and calling it a night. Yea it always seems that simple until the second you get comfortable in whatever you consider that situation to be, and some shit happens that changes the whole dynamic. Now your no strings attached relationship all of a sudden has some very visible strings. So are you just hiding your strings in a or do they develop once the sex happens?
What’s your definition of good GREAT sex? Everyone’s answers might be different, but the goal is the same. Great sex is the type of sex that makes you want to put everything in that motherfucker’s name. Lol iKid. The dick so damn good that you would get up at 2 am in the dead of winter and run outside to turn on his car so it can heat up for his ass. Great sex is the type of sex that make you say “fuck them bitches” when your girlfriends call you to go out to the club. Great sex is the type of sex that has your legs wobbling, sweat dripping off your titty and new hair do gone to hell but you still suck his dick as a fucking “thank you” just for being fucking you. When a man knows how to do it just right it can make every sex session feel like damn Thanksgiving.
My boyfriend and I have great great great SEX!!! But one HUGE problem-he doesn’t cum. We could go for 2 hours and he still won’t! ! He came once in our whole 9 month relationship and I just believe it was built up and we hadn’t had sex for about 4 weeks. We have sex often and he tells me over and over its amazing and I have the best p**** hes ever had (which I’m confident is true after stories he told me about past 3 girls) but I don’t get it! My ex was a total 1 minute quitter!!! So its refreshing to have a guy with stamina out of this world but still I wanna gt him off. I give him head for an 1 hour and a half till my jaw was numb and he still didn’t! !! I can even sometimes feel him close but he just doesn’t hes even said he gets real close to cumming but doesn’t Idk what to do tried various positions and i tried my best tricks! He thinks it has to do with his only masturbating for a year but idk….help!!!!!
Can’t make him nut
Girl what’s wrong with your man’s dick? Lol iKid iKid. Just trying to lighten the mood. I know how you’re feeling right now, because this would make any woman sorta question her abilities You start to take it a little personal. The goal in sex is to make your partner buss that well deserved nut and when we’ve gotten ours and they don’t get theirs we feel guilty. The good news is it might not be you. If he’s had this issue in previous situations with other women he might have an actual sexual condition calledDelayed Ejaculation.
Delayed ejaculation is a medical condition in which a male cannot ejaculate, either during intercourse or by manual stimulation with a partner. Ejaculation is when semen is released from the penis.
You stated that he only masturbated for a year; that actually can be the reason why he’s now having difficulties cumming during sex. It might be a nerve issue and he might need to see a urologist to get tested.
I know it’s difficult, but once he finds out exactly what the issue is this string of dryness may continue. I know most men don’t like to go to the doctor especially if it involves their beloved dicks, but I think this is something that needs to be addressed.
If your man is open to this idea I want you to try something. If you have a vibrator, bullet or some other thing that vibrates at a rapid pace place it in that area. If nothing happens and he’s still having the same issue he might have a problem with his nervous system. He needs to seek help from a professional. Hopefully things work out for him.
I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!
There is nothing sexier than some of that bomb emotionally charged sex. The type of sex where you put all your strength into it to achieve the might ass orgasm you so desperately crave. It’s not all slow kisses and light touching. It’s hair pulling, ass spanking and grunting if the shit feels right. This kind of loving isn’t for the weak bodied individuals. You have to be able to show your kinky side in order to enjoy the beauty that is kink. What if you’re not into such activities but your man loves it? When your about to have sex he becomes sexually controlling. Telling what to do, being a little aggressive maybe even whispering dirty shit in your ear in a stern yet sexy voice. If you weren’t into that kind of kink but you love him; could you stay?
Like I said before, not everyone is into that kind of lovin. You have to be willing to give up a little control and go with the flow. Not saying you have to allow him to disrespect you in any kind of way, but you do have to be open. The first time I experienced this type of situation I was scared shitless. Not that I was scared or anything, I was unsure what the hell I was supposed to do. He was forceful and I was timid. He picked up up and plopped me on the bed. I’m looking around because I wasn’t sure if I should be concerned, kick him in the balls and run for the door or moan in ecstasy. I was so used to that dry sex shit, I was unschooled in the ways of sexual control. When he started and I started loosening up I was actually more turned on than I thought I could be. I allowed myself to be a little more open and allowed him to have control. Every stroke felt deeper than the last. His hands in my hair tugging at it with medium pressure. Listen here; I thought I was going to explode. It was like a sexual awakening. I was no longer just having sex because it was something I thought I was suppose to do. That night I was having sex for the intense pleasure and it was wonderful. I allowed myself to open up and try it once. If I wasn’t into it, I would tell him that it wasn’t something I wanted to do on a regular basis. If he failed to acknowledge the fact that I wasn’t down, then no more for me.
The point is you can’t knock something, you’ve failed to try. Obviously you have limits and boundaries you might not want to cross, and that could be easily explained. Like I don’t care how playful we are you will not slap my face. Fuck that shit if you slap me even lightly protect your nuts cause they’re the first thing I’m attacking. I don’t give any type of fux how intense the shit is, if you slap me we got a got damn problem. I make that shit clear from jump, because I know what I’m not comfortable doing. Getting back to the sex, this can bring a different energy to your love making. Some couples are so bored with the regular missionary style and they’re afraid to venture out. If he loves it and you don’t let him know. If he refuses to compromise with you, then handle it how you see fit. If you love it and want more of it, but he’s reluctant let him know. Some chicks want to be choked and scared as shit to open their mouths and say something. By the by…please use a safety word. Don’t want ya’ll passing out in the middle of the dick and shit.
Holla at me: Have you ever been in a sexually controlled relationship? Were you the controller or the controlle?
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