Ask V.I.~ I Lied And Told Him That He Is The Father

family walking down the street

Hi V.I.,

I just need to unburden myself to someone. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have a 9 month old daughter. During our relationship I can admit that I haven’t been very faithful to him. The sex isn’t stimulating to me. He’s a good guy, but when it comes to sex he’s very one-dimensional. So, I started getting it elsewhere. I was doing pretty good until I started feeling sick and throwing up all the time. I thought I had the flu until I went to the doctor and she did a urine test. I was pregnant and didn’t know what to do. I had to make the decision if I should keep the child when I wasn’t sure who was my child’s father. I decided to tell my boyfriend it was his child. He was more stable financially than the other guy and frankly I knew he would be there and provide for her the way she needed to be cared for.

Now that my little girl is growing into her features I’m noticing that she resembles the other guy than her “father”. As a matter of fact she looks like his 2-year-old son. I’m so afraid that my boyfriend will question her looks. Last week he said that it’s interesting that she’s not getting any darker and wonders where she got her hazel eyes. I lied and told him that my grandmother had the same eyes so she got it from my side. I am so afraid that he’ll find out. He loves her so much and she adores her daddy. How can I tell him that he’s not the father? Should I take this to the grave while never telling him and her the truth? Should I tell him and risk him leaving us and having no one to provide for us? Please help me.

Living a Lie

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Ask V.I.~ I’m His Sex Buddy, But Want To Be His Girl

woman straddling man

Hi V.I.,

I’ve been messing around with one of my best friends oldest cousin. Its been 2 & half month everything is sooooo perfect,but when something doesn’t go they way I want it to I call my friend. He doesn’t try to cover for him but he always says ” don’t expect so much from him ” so I don’t know!?  We haven’t argued about anything, when I call he comes. Something just doesn’t feel right. He hasn’t gave me a reason to leave but other people always have something to say! Our sex is amazing we talk and text all the time. I recently got pregnant and lost the baby but when I first told him he said it’s whatever you wanna do! A part of me feels like he’s hiding something because if were doing so well why not make me his girlfriend?

Pleaseeee help me!!

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Do’s and Don’ts of Great Sex

Exhaustion sex is the absolute best sex to experience. You’re in bed looking at each other like “Damn baby what the hell you just did to me”. That’s the type of sex that leaves you breathless and when you try to stand your legs are like jelly. Knowing that the position that you were just in made you feel that long stroke in your abdomen, but you ignore the pain so you can feel the pleasure. So after all the huffing and puffing, the whining and grinding, how did you and your lover get to this point? Fellas, I have 10 do’s and don’t to pleasing a woman.

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Ask V.I.~He Made Me His Girlfriend, Then Took It Back

father and sons

Hi VI,

So I started dating a full-time single Dad of a 2yr old. In the beginning it was great then he put a label on it making me his gf.  Then he starred pulling away and when I would complain we never found anytime for me (weekdays weren’t good cause if the kid.. Daycare etc.   But weekends he wanted to just chill and have alone time) he freaked our saying I was pressuring him, overwhelming him it was too much. I’m a pretty easy-going chick so when I say complain I mean “hey babe am I going to see you this weekend ”  Finally I had enough of being a gf of convenience and ended it but remained friends..which turned into a booty call or so I thought.  Yes we had sex and lots of it (more than we had in the 2 months we were together combined) but we talked hung out laughed and during the talk he said this was better no pressure and didn’t want to stop seeing me.  He doesn’t want to see or fuck anyone else either.     So my question is.. Did the label gf/bf really freak him out even though he pushed for it  and introduced me to his family and why?  And even if you remove the label but we’re exclusive isn’t that the same thing?

 Confused and Sexually Satisfied

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All Hoes Have An Expiration Date *Vintage*

A lot of people fail to realize that a hoe no matter how hoe-ish he/she might be, doesn’t go very far for too long. All hoes expire at some point. Yea they’re hot for a minute, but once the guy/girl realizes that there is something out there better you will be a distant memory. There are a lot of chicks out here that think f*cking every guy for recognition, money or a damn purse is needed. They choose to live their life that way, but fail to realize there is a time that their services won’t be needed. They will be tossed to the side and left out in the cold with a busted and bruised coochie and a bag that is so last year.

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Is Being Faithful As Easy As It Seems?



Being faithful isn’t easy. Hell if it was then there would be a lot more happy relationships and a lot less cheating. When someone decides to cheat they have totally disconnected from their committed relationship. Let’s just get this straight. Cheating is not only a physical act. If you stepped outside of your relationship and developed an emotional connection to someone other than your partner that is cheating also. So many people feel like if the dick didn’t present itself then you’re not guilty of stepping outside your relationship. Girl goodbye. The second you became emotionally attached you’ve just cheated on your man/woman. Why does it seem that it’s easier to find someone who has cheated than to find someone who has never cheated in a relationship?

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Ask V.I.~ He Needs To Learn How To Make Me Squirt?

vaginal pleasure

Hey V.I.,

I just started reading your blog & I love it!
I need some advice. I’m one of those females who loves knowing what they’re doing in bed. So when I’m not having sex with my boyfriend, I’m looking up topics like “Ways to make your man cum faster” or “Tips for riding dick.” And I’ve found some really good tips and whatnot. All I want to know now is how to introduce them to my man. I feel as if I tell him he needs to this or do that will knock him off his high horse of being a “sexpert”.

The main thing I want to teach him is how to make me squirt. I know how to make myself squirt, btw.


Hurting For A Squirting

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All NaNa Want Is Some D*ck For Her Birthday **Video**

I died when I watched this video. A news reporter interviewed a 100 year old Great-Grandmother for her birthday. The reporter tried to ask her about her birthday and what it means to her and all Nana can talk about was dick. She even asked him how big was his dick and how does it hang. I swear the elderly just say whatever and give no solid fuck how it sounds. I live for her tho, still appreciates the value of good dick. Her family was embarrassed tho, but Nana was having a good time talking bout dick and shit. One of her family members even promised her “a lil dick” if she did the interview right. Lol. I just love old people.

Ask V.I.~ I Lost My Virginity To My F*ck Buddy



Hi V.I.,

Well I just found your candy diaries today. And I was just reading on your article on friends with benefits … and you have amazing advice!  So I was hoping you could maybe find some time to help me on the topic ?  It would mean the world.
Well to start from the beginning I’ve had this guy who I was on and off with a couple of years ago. We’ve known each other for 7 years.. and three years ago we lost our virginity to each other. Ever since then we’ve been friends with benefits.  And we made a deal that we’d only be with each other, and no one else. So for this long now we’ve just had each other.  He says he doesn’t wanna be with me. Now I’m on the chubbier side. But his sister (who happens to be my best friend) he’s opened up and told that he’d be with me if I lost weight. Everyone knows were friends with benefits but that he doesn’t wanna be with me. So it’s not like I’m a hidden secret. So back to my story, we’ve been at this for three years. And after he says he doesn’t wanna ‘be with me’ he gets mad at me if he thinks I’m with other guys,  questions if I’ve been with other guys,  wants to know where I’m at, what I’m doing who I’m with etc…
I’m so confused.
After all of this he’s sooo mean to me half the time … its like he’s super bipolar. But I need help on what I should think of the situation or do?  .. to this day if we go to hook up, we still make sure that neither of us has hooked up with anyone else (which we haven’t)  . And on top of that he hasn’t dated anyone since the first time we ever hooked up ….
When it’s just me and him he can be so sweet to me like he still cares like he used to,  but in front of people he acts cold… help!  Pleaseeeeee!

-Sincerely,  wish I knew what to do!  .

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Ask V.I.~ I Want Him Hooked On Me…Please HELP!!



Dear V.I. ,

Please help me!! Me and this guy are sex buddies and I’m honestly cool with that like I know what it is when he calls me and vise versa but it’s getting old that he hasn’t caught feelings yet usually I have to beg guys to leave me  alone and this guy is just different… I don’t want anything special like a relationship I don’t even want to be a sideline and spend the night every once in a while I just want him wrapped around my finger…. PLEASEEEEEEE tell me how I can get him to get like that and obviously the sex isn’t gonna be the answer to that because he can have ANY girl I need to know some psychological shit I can do to have him hooked on me please get back to me soon!!


Want That N*gga Whipped

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