Last night I was having a conversation with one of my friends regarding growth. A few days ago she sent a text out to about 5 of her friends including me stating that she needs time to sort things out in her life and doesn’t want to really speak to anyone. I’m not sure how the other 4 took it, but I totally understood where she was coming from and told her I am always here if she needed to speak to someone. I felt that’s what being a friend was about…knowing when the other person just needs space and understanding it. So I finally talked to her today and she said she hoped I wasn’t offended by her text. Apparently, I was the only person that didn’t take offense to it. One of her “friends” hung up on her because they thought she was pissed at them and sent that text as a way to say “F*ck off”. Sometimes it’s not always about you. This is the case when the folks you thought were your friends cannot understand growth. They can’t understand that sometimes telling all your damn business just ain’t the business. You’re trying to advance and they’re stuck in the same path of thinking…THIS IS WHEN YOU MIGHT HAVE OUTGROWN YOUR FRIENDS.
What’s up folks! It’s that time of year. Gotta go on a blogger’s vacation. It’s long over due and very much needed. I will be back on May 10th with all new blogs. If you wanna me to discuss a certain topic, wanna submit something for “Ask V.I. or just wanna say hi you can always shoot me an email via the contact page. Also you need to check out the CanDi Store for great items to enhance your bedroom or in the car activities. I know half of ya’ll are freaks.
Anyway, be safe be good. Don’t forget about me cause you guys know I live and breath this blog. I will be back to give you that good shit.
Have you ever met a man that constantly talked about having kids? He brings up the subject even more than you do. He feels like he might be running out of time so he needs to find someone “right quick” to get her ass knocked up. This man is so dead set on having kids that he might even try to trap you. This man is hearing his biological clock and he will do whatever needs to be done, to have his man seed conceived. If you were thinking about actually having kids, you would be so afraid to have them with him.
I was never into the young tenders. I always felt someone younger than me lacked maturity and wisdom so I stayed away. I never wanted to fuck with a man older than I was because…well I just thought that shit was gross. So with all my sticking to my own age I met some God awful people and some down to earth souls. So I decided to step outside the box on two occasions and I came to the realization no matter what age a man is, THEY ALL ACT THE SAME DAMN WAY. So I got two stories to tell. One where I dated someone younger and the other where I dated someone much older. In my opinion age don’t mean shit when it comes to maturity.
Ladies, I know a nice big juicy man meat is something you wish, hope and pray for but sometimes you have to leave well enough alone. I need you feeble bitches to stay away from the gigantor penis. You might be saying to yourself “Well V.I., why wouldn’t I want a big one invading my insides”? For starters all big dick ain’t necessarily good dick. Don’t get me wrong, there are some one’s out there that leave you feenin like a crackhead wanting another hit. Then there are some that don’t do anything but wreck your cervix and leave you resting your ass on a donut for 3 days because he knocked something outta wack. Just like anything out there …Know Your Limit. If you know your cooch can only take 5in *side eye at your wack ass cooch* the highest you can go is about 2in higher. If you know you’re a 4in taker and your ass tries to experiment with a 10in brotha, your ass is too ambitious and the sex will be a fail for you and your worn out vagina.
What it look like? I’m doing an external Diary of a Mad Guest Blogger today. My blog sister CoCo B. Ware has an interesting and insightful article over on her blog Blush & Bashful. CoCo talks about the roles in a relationship. How few women take on the traditional roles, while some men are truly good men. She also got some great perspectives from several different men out there. Check her out over at http://www.2shadesofpink.com. Don’t forget to leave your feedback…Show her some love.
This is a response email from the Ask V.I. blog I did a few weeks ago “Married Yet Still Single“. The husband wanted to address the responses to his dilemma. This is where you come in. I will let you guys respond to him. I won’t comment unless need be. This is your time to let it all out. Remember he’s listening and apparently so is his wife.
I hear the comments stated in response to my situation. As a husband, I gave my all to my wife. Understanding from a male perspective is something you may never understand. While many of you believe that I should not worry about the money, I believe you are sadly mistaken. You see, my wife doesn’t pay any bills and that nice automobile that she drives…I paid for that. I spoiled her..I intended to do that because she was my queen. Some of you women, however, are so pitiful that you take good men for granted and run them off then turn them into monsters. I say this to say that even had I given her a timely divorce, she would still have been entitled to some form of alimony. Not happening. I told her prior, you have 100% of me…now at best she is split 40/60 with the misses. I found out from the misses that she also reads Candy Diaries. So to the editor, its a small world.
As I was saying, some of you have husbands or boyfriends that have committed their all for you…don’t betray that because once you do, the trust is almost impossible to replace. Some of you are laying up with somebody’s husband right now…or somebody’s boyfriend ..maybe you may make a faithful wife or girlfriend some day because you have what it takes it seems to keep a man happy and would make him want to leave everything for you. Wives and girlfriends take note. And by the way I am not stringing the other woman along. She is a willing participant. This can not work if one does not know about the other. I believe I have never been as candid with a female as her. Why is that possible? Is it she is a better listener? Or her only desire is to make sure you feel appreciated.
Nevertheless, I now see how some men were able to have two entirely different families and sometimes they don’t find out about the other until the damn funeral. So for her betrayal why shouldn’t I be able to carry out this affair? Trust me it hurts her to know that something is up but she can’t catch me in the act. One thing a woman hates is when another woman is stealing from her cookie jar. Please tell me people, why shouldn’t I dog her out for however long so she can appreciate the good that she had?
I have a really big problem with grown ass men still acting like they’re still in there teens. There are some things that your ass need to let go of. I’ve come across men that look grown but act even more childish than my3 year old God son. I understand feelings zestfully youthful is what everyone strives for, but at some point you need to grow up and take care of your responsibilities. A woman can’t handle a grown f*cking man-boy. Ladies, if you continue to put up with his shit his ass won’t see any problem in what he’s doing because you’re condoning it. I’ve come up with my own list of things that I think men need to let go. Hell you’re in your 30’s now…grow the f*ck up!
Have you ever known someone that just wasn’t right in the head? They get into a particular relationship and when things start going bad they automatically start to act different? It’s like they love so strong that their mind can’t keep up with their emotions. They start saying and doing some off the wall shit, and think that nothing is wrong with them but with everyone else. I always wondered if genetically people have the crazy demon in them already, or the minute they love too strong they start to lose it. Can love actually make someone crazy?
I’m not sure how many of you guys watch Project Runway, but if you do you know the person in the pic. I just want to say that I love this man *tears forming* and even though he’s no longer a contestant on the show he will be the winner in my book. Anthony kept the show lively this season. Whenever he showed up my heart started to dance. He made my Thursday’s a better place to be. This man was thee funniest ghey ever and for that I LOVE HIM. If I ever have the opportunity to meet Anthony I would let him know that he has made me into an Anthony L. Williams believer.
You are a fighter!!! They kicked you off and brought you back after whatever her name was decided that she couldn’t cut the mustard. You came back with FIERCENESS in your eyes and you won that challenge. Then you were gone again. I was so hopping that we would have had the opportunity to see you at Bryant Park, but alas we will not. Anthony you make me happy. I would marry you if you were straight, but then you probably wouldn’t be as funny. Anyway, I would love for you to design my wedding dress. I am so serious right now. You are a beautiful human being. Kindest heart ever. Even though you might be a bitch in real life, you’re our bitch and we love you. We will move on and remember the good times, but we will never forget all the funny shit you said, they cute dresses you made and that powder blue sweater you seemed to rock every week. We <3 you!!!
This song is dedicated to you!! You’re our fierce ghey Prince. Shine boo….Just SHINE. *Does a House of Flowers twirl*
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