The Change That May Never Come

If he doesn’t change, can you live with it? How many times have you met someone you were interested in, but there was something about them that you wish would just go away? Like he’s a fanatic when it comes to video games, or she doesn’t see a problem with going to the club every weekend. Hell it could even be, he has a problem with keeping his nut sack in his pants! So many times we meet someone that has a lot of the qualities we like, but they lack something in another department. You wish upon a fallen star that he changes his ways, because if he did he would be the “perfect” person for YOU. You hold onto the relationship hoping that change will come, at the same time falling deeper and deeper in love. What if the change didn’t come, would you stay in the relationship?

Many people always preach “Accept them flaws and all”. This is true, but sometimes deep down you would like some kind of change to occur. You don’t have to necessarily change  them, but you would like them to realize their flaws and change themselves.   So you invest a year or two in the relationship and you’re still waiting for this marvelous change to come. You love them, but you’re not able to fully love them the way you want to. Year 3 rolls around and you finally realize this shit might not happen. You’ve tried to hold on as much as you can, but the longer you stay the more you dislike their flaw. The one thing about a flaw is, it’s never guaranteed to go away.

I was involved in a relationship and his flaw was sticking his dick in other bitches lady holes. In every other aspect he was a “wonderful” guy, but that was the only problem. I sat there and realized even though I loved him I couldn’t live with this flaw. Yea he said over and over again “I’ll change”, but I realized the more I stayed the more I was accepting it. If we got married and he never changed, I knew I couldn’t live with that so I bounced. You always have to think “What would happen if the change doesn’t come”? If you know deep down you can live with it, by all means make love happen. If you know your ass can’t then why hold on wasting your years on some shit that may never come? Nothing in this world is guaranteed, other than taxes and Brandy rocking a baby hair lacefront. You can want change, but that doesn’t mean it will happen.

So if you’re in a relationship with someone and their flaws might be tolerable now, just think “will  they be tolerable 5 years from now”. We can never predict the future, but I would rather let something go and see if that shit comes back to me than keep something and wish I hadn’t.

Holla at me: What is one flaw you cannot live with?