Finally a few years after that, I’m in what was thought to be a loving relationship with a good man and I got cheated on. Now this was me being on the other side of the fence. Again, the internet will ruin us all because that is how I found out. You can find out anything on the internet because everyone is so eager to put all their business out there. I can’t say that I was shocked because I don’t put nothing pass a man. I also thought this was karma grabbing me by the ass for the last “other woman” status I had in my past relationships. I guess I am different than most women because I never confronted, called or stalked this other woman. Either she knew or didn’t know anything about me, that wasn’t the point. The point was the person I was involved with decided to step outside of our relationship. I didn’t give a f*ck about that bitch because chances are if it wasn’t her it would have been someone else. I dealt with him. I guess she was confused as to why I never questioned her, but why should I? How many times has a woman called you and asked “How do you know him”? You would do one of three things; you would hang up, cuss her out or tell her everything she wants to hear. A woman being cheated on already knows the answer so me calling her was just a waste of my time. I confronted him…he lied…I kicked him to the curb…thee end.
I loved him, but at that point I knew the game and I wasn’t about to play that shit. If men can get pussy boo they will take it. I said all this to say going after the women is pointless half the time, because there is a big chance she doesn’t even know you exists. He’s your man for a reason. You handle him accordingly. Now don’t get it twisted, if that bitch is harassing you then you need to handle her ass. There ain’t nothing worse than a disrespectful bitch. The thing is some men lead these women on, while others tell them the deal from jump. It’s all about how the woman preserves the relationship and half the time it’s based by the gestures he gives her. So not all “side chicks” are bad chicks…it’s just her actions once she gets caught up.
sheartless
Comment made on August 5, 2010 @ 11:47 am
i dont understand y no one didnt write on this post ..this is one of the best post that this site as had …i dont kow what it is but i never noticed how much people cheat like its nothing ..maybe this is to close to home cause i have been in all 3 positions ..both women and the male…i dont know nvm
CP
Comment made on August 25, 2010 @ 5:31 pm
I definitely agree to put blame where blame is due–on the deceiver, however many there may be. I have also found myself in situations with married men, not even knowing they were married. I luckily found out before it was too late to fix, but at this point it is just bullshit that I have to screen my potential dates *multiple times* to find out if they are actually single. I think it all just comes down to ‘treat others as you want to be treated’.