*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature the bloggers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to John Doe.
Loyalty, that’s the word that comes right after the big four letter word “Love”. Some may say they both coincide with each other. One may not be capable to have one without the other, in a safe or healthy relationship. People, have you ever wondered/questioned the loyalty of family, friends, & especially your significant other has for you? Well, that’s a question everyone thinks or asks themselves and will like to know the answer to before that big day one may say “I DO”.
“For better or for worse”, from a Male’s perspective. Most guys probably wonder if I didn’t have the keys to the car I drive, the house at the right zip code, or a career that indicates success would chica still ride or die for me? Or better yet, if all the asset’s were to disappear one day especially with this challenging economy, “Would the Ms. still be there”? (Jay-Z couldn’t have said it better) Now don’t get it twisted ladies; no one’s saying to go out there and get a n*gga to just pound the shit out of your stomach and not a provider, protector, & a passionate lover. But, these days most parents (especially mothers) teach or emphasize to their daughters what to look for or how to identify a good man. Most times, this conversation comes about before the career conversation or even before chica learns how to be a good companion to the right man. Ladies lets keep it 100%, its to often females go out there and are drawn/attracted to the guys that can provide a lifestyle they anticipate vs a dude with a good attitude that their compatible with and may perhaps fall in love with one day. So ladies, can you be loyal just to diamond rings and shiny thangs vs happy living?
“For better or for worse”, from a female’s perspective. Most women probably wonder; would he chang after I’ve helped him turned sucessful, after gaining 50 lbs from bearing his kids he wanted would he still find me attractive? After a year of marriage he found out that I can’t give him the son (Jr.) he anticipated would he stay committed? Better yet, if after all I’ve done to, for & with him if he saw a female with more assets; would the Mr. still be there? These days most guys would choose the female that gives them more publicity vs the one with good stability. Now just keeping it 100%, after he’s attained the house in a good community, good car and a great career; he’s going to want a female to best represent him in the public eye. To also reflect his 360 degree level of success/accomplishments. Now, the new chic might not even have good qualities and posses all the bad habits but because she’s cute in the face, slim in the waist, and phat in the right places that’s all she’s gonna need for a good living. So, fellas, would you choose perception over foundation? Can you be loyal to a shopaholic, big booty woman with conceitedways vs intellect, personality, & substance?
Trina
Comment made on March 9, 2010 @ 10:04 am
Its so interesting hearing a man’s point of view about loyalty in a relationship. When push comes to shove can you stay down when the chips fall? Great post John Doe.
the78msj
Comment made on March 9, 2010 @ 6:02 pm
I think loyalty and faithfulness go hand in hand and in this society in this day and age those words don’t amount to spit. I often wonder is anyone faithful anymore because these day’s I seem to know more people cheating then those that choose to be monogamous. It’s discouraging to say the least but when you have a culture that glorifies all the wrong types of things style over substance will always win out at the end of the day.
Jason
Comment made on March 11, 2010 @ 12:44 am
Yo son, you are so right. It is hard to find a woman that would stay down for you when the going gets rough. There are some trifflin ass females out here that just look for the quickest way to come up. I admit I had a good one that stayed down with me, but I was an ass when it came down to it. Once I got good, I was ghost. Looked for the hoes that didn’t fuck with me when I was digging for nickles in my pocket. I guess I wanted to show them I wasn’t that broke nigga anymore. I regret that shit cause I lost a good one. She got married to some cat last year though. Wish I did shit differently, but hey that was my bad.