Everyone has different ideas on cheating or what is considered cheating. One thing is for sure, it can’t be denied that signs play a major role when realizing that things just don’t seem the same between you and your partner. You may notice that your lover spends alot of time texting, or on the computer more often than they use to be. Automatically your mind will probably think that the other person might be cheating, but because you think it’s cheating does your lover see it that way?
I have been accused of cheating on multiple occassions. Not because they caught me cheating, it was because I just did the same things I did when I was single. For example, on weekends I go out with my girls to the club. That is something I did when I was single, and even though I may have cut down on my club activity because I wanted to spend time with my boo, he viewed it as cheating on him. I am not sure if it is just me, but how in the world was that cheating? I never take numbers and I always come back home to him, but what he considers cheating I clearly don’t.
Some people consider emotional cheating just as bad as physically cheating. Your giving your time to someone else that you have an emotional connection. Even though your lover may not be easy to talk to about your feelings and “Jason” is, you confide in him. Although, you have not given into any types of temptation you MAY be feeling, are you still guilty of something? Others looking in might view it as stepping outside your relationship for some sort of fulfillment that your partner can’t provide, hence you are cheating.
In my opinion it all depends on the situation you’re currently involved in. Once you know your lover and their thought process, you can easily figure out their reactions if they would ever find out what you’re doing. It’s also depends on how far you take it with the other person. You run the risk of hurting everyone involved.
Holla at me: What do you view as cheating? Have you ever been in a emotional cheating situation?
Brandy
Comment made on March 4, 2010 @ 10:36 am
Personally I stick to the physical nature of the word cheating. No giving out my hugs and suga (kisses) and sleeping with other people. I don’t mind him spending time with the boys on the weekend or him kickin it with other females as long as I know about it before hand, but if he has to sneak around and do it. I might not call it cheating but it looks real suspect…
kim
Comment made on March 4, 2010 @ 11:40 am
You’re right Brandy if he has to sneak around to do it its seems like he’s up to no good. Great post V.I.
R
Comment made on October 8, 2012 @ 7:23 pm
If you have to ask if it’s cheating guess what it probably is
CJ
Comment made on November 4, 2012 @ 11:09 am
All I do is “cheat” but I think if there aren’t any emotions involved then its now cheating