Act of Desperation: Are You Too Generous Or Are You Trying To Buy His Love?


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There is nothing at all wrong with spoiling your man. If you want to buy him a nice shirt or a pair of expensive ass sneakers, do ya thang. The issue that I see many women having is that they feel like doing everything for a man financially will make him stay. There are women out here trying to buy love from a man who isn’t even selling it. He allows you to buy him and still would turn around and leave you for someone else. There is nothing wrong with generosity in a relationship, the issue is some women confuse generosity with pure desperation. Here’s a little secret for those of you that are unaware of the difference: Generosity goes both ways. Desperation is a singular action. Spending all your damn money won’t keep no damn man. 

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Gal Where You Been…Again?


I know I keep disappearing and reappearing like I’m Kanye’s  sanity, but I’ve been busy as HELL. I know I haven’t been blogging and there is a reason for that, which I will discuss at a later time. As of right now, I’ve started new ventures that has kept me so busy I forgot I had a blog. No Lie.  One thing I’ve been working hard on is my t-shirt company. “Respect My Melanin”. LISTENNNNNNNNNN now this has been in the making for almost 5 years. I have wanted to start a t-shirt line for so long I just didn’t know where to start. I decided this year that I would do all the things I’ve been putting of, and this is one of them. Respect My Melanin is a company that takes pride in our blackness. The shirts are all designed by yours truly and I worked HARD on this ya’ll. I believe in supporting black owned businesses, so if you feel the same hit up the website. I have new shirts coming soon. I will leave all the info on down below as well.

Another thing I’ve been  working on,  I started a podcast with a few of my friends called “The Dope Clique” show. It’s a podcast of 30 something friends who discuss anything we damn well please. This is something that I’ve wanted to do for a while, and so glad that I have the opportunity to do it with my friends. I’ll leave the link to our website, where you can listen to the show, our social media and I’ll also leave the soundcloud link to our last episode. I hope you like, share, download, comment or whatever you wanna do.

I still have my wig company “Snatched Mane which ya’ll know I make custom units. I’m also taking classes to enter into another career field. I’m just trying new things because honestly, if you’re too afraid to take a chance on yourself how do you expect to live to your full potential? I am jumping into my destiny this year. Thank you guys for your patience.


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Beyonce’s “Formation” Isn’t About Beyonce…It’s About Being Unapologetically Black


*Pumps my black power fist in the air* Ladies and gentlemen, Beyoncé has arrived and she’s letting ya’ll know that she’s a proud black woman. If you are unaware, Beyoncé dropped a single on Saturday afternoon for her new song “Formation“. The song basically shuts down all those crazy ass rumors about the Illuminati that ya’ll so love to spew. She addresses that her daughter will continue to rock her baby fro and you can stay mad for the rest of your lives.  The beat goes hard as f*ck and of course I love it. Bey talks about getting where she has gotten by working her black ass off and she will continue to slay. 

The main attention that has everyone talking is the actual “Formation” video. The video is the blackest f*cking video I have ever seen and I am here for all of it. ALL OF IT. The video shows every powerful black images of New Orleans and her creole roots. The video pays homage and shows gripping symbolism of the Black Lives Matter movement, Hurricane Katrina, The Nation of Islam, 19th century black New Orleans society and Moor influences. Mama took it there and didn’t give a damn who the hell felt pressed. You thought, she was done but oh the shit got better. On Sunday the creole queen performed at the Superbowl halftime show and sang her new single. Bey paying homage to Michael Jackson in her all black and gold attire and her dancers dressed as Black Panthers which is also paying tribute to the Black Panther parties 50th year in existence. Bey proclaimed that she was a negro woman in front of the nations and millions of angry  racists white people.

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MUST READ: Do Black Men Really Hate Black Women? *Vintage*

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There has been a lot of talk recently about these “Youtube Prophets “claiming that the reason black women are alone is because they ran the black man away. Black women are “egotistical women who raise no good children”. Basically all black women are bitches and wonder why we lose our men to women of other races. This is the dumbest pile of shit I have ever heard in my life. There are black men walking around hating black women because we want them to be the best they can be. They stereotype all sistas to be “neck snapping, gum chewing weave wearing hoes” that only want to dominate a man and bring him down. I got news for you angry black men NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN WANT TO DRAIN YOUR BLACK ASS.

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Dating Ain’t Sh!t, When You’re Trying To Date With Purpose

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The dating scene ain’t sh*t. I ain’t telling you what I heard, I’m telling you what I know. Although I’ve been out of the dating scene for a little over two I remember that monster all too well. The problem is, if you’re interested in dating with a purpose you have to weed through a lot of the bullsh*t people you encounter. You meet a series of random “potentials” that turn out to be Peter Gunz  f*ck boy interns. There are also times when you seem to meet the “perfect” match (I put quotations because there is no such thing as a perfect person, IMO) but they’re going through some other mess in their life and getting involved would just be a waste of everyone’s time. Yea, it’s hard out here for a sista that just wants to fall in love. When I was hopelessly single, one day I decided to turn my dating dilemma into just dating for pleasure.

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