Would You Date…You?



Have you ever sat and wonder why all your friends seem to find someone worthy of being in their lives, but you seem to be the forever alone friend? You rarely meet anyone that’s interesting, and if you do they never stay in the picture long-term? You feel you have everything going for you, so everyone else must be the problem? In all honesty, knowing how you are would you even date you? Sometimes we focus so much on meeting the right person that we neglect to look at ourselves. Some people just aren’t date-able. If you sat down and thought about you and all your little quirks would you be eager enough to give yourself a chance?

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Why Are There So Many Thirsty Women With Simple Standards?


 It’s so “cute” how women call men thirsty when they open their mouths to pay them a compliment, but when they see a good-looking man who ain’t bout shit their standards drop and their tongues are left wagging. Yesterday the photo above went viral, and got a lot of crazy reactions from women with the lowest of standards. He may look like a Calvin Klein model but the brotha has a wrap sheet a mile long. This is actually his mugshot photo that got all these broads all hot and bothered.

The man behind all the thirst is Jeremy Meeks. A convicted felon who was recently charged with multiple felonies. Meeks has been called “one of the most violent criminals in the Stockton area” according to Officer Joseph Silva, yet this is the man folks are going bat shit crazy over? Leave it up to the thirst driven thots on the internet to bypass the CRIMINAL WHO IS ON $900,000 BAIL for doing a bunch of ILLEGAL shit and only focus on his face. One woman said “He can rob my house and assault me anytime”. Really? This really shows how many women are out here making bad relationship choices because they bypass/ignore all the horrible shit if the man has a cute face and a big dick. Don’t get me wrong, dude is cute but crime isn’t so miss me with all that mess. 

I know about 70% of the women on twitter and Facebook combined would let him hit raw if he walked up to them knowing his criminal history. Then they want to complain they can’t find a good man. How can you if all you focus on is how a man’s blue eyes and high cheek bones glisten behind the visitor’s glass in the prison? This is the reason why so many women are single because they go after the f*ck boys then get mad when they get f*cked over by said f*ck boy. How low are your standards really? The fact that this convict is getting all this shine for his looks and damn near all the media outlets are bypassing his actual charges is just crazy in my opinion. Hell, a news crew went to the prison and interviewed him about his recent shot to “fame”.  It’s sad on his part honestly, because he really does have the looks to make it as a male model, but I guess five weapons charges and one gang charge seemed like the best professional route to go. Smh

Ya’ll can call me a hater, but I just don’t find criminals sexy enough to remove my panties. Hell if I find out you got arrested in 2001 for a traffic violation, I’m walking away. I don’t do the Bonnie and Clyde shit.

Question: Would you bypass a man’s criminal activities just because he’s attractive?

Downfalls of Losing Yourself In A Relationship

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The one thing that hinders us in life is losing ourselves. The person who you’ve grown to become is now unsure of who she is and her purpose. Now imagine losing yourself while in a relationship. Putting other’s opinions “suggestions” ahead of your own. Allowing their notions about your life, stop you from being who you’ve always been…YOU. It’s so easy to divert from who you are when starting out a new relationship. You take the constant ideas and suggestions of your partner, not realizing that you’re changing to suit their needs. Losing who you’ve always been to a person you no longer recognize. Losing yourself not only affect your “relationship” but your entire life.

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Ask V.I.~ I Lied And Told Him That He Is The Father

family walking down the street

Hi V.I.,

I just need to unburden myself to someone. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have a 9 month old daughter. During our relationship I can admit that I haven’t been very faithful to him. The sex isn’t stimulating to me. He’s a good guy, but when it comes to sex he’s very one-dimensional. So, I started getting it elsewhere. I was doing pretty good until I started feeling sick and throwing up all the time. I thought I had the flu until I went to the doctor and she did a urine test. I was pregnant and didn’t know what to do. I had to make the decision if I should keep the child when I wasn’t sure who was my child’s father. I decided to tell my boyfriend it was his child. He was more stable financially than the other guy and frankly I knew he would be there and provide for her the way she needed to be cared for.

Now that my little girl is growing into her features I’m noticing that she resembles the other guy than her “father”. As a matter of fact she looks like his 2-year-old son. I’m so afraid that my boyfriend will question her looks. Last week he said that it’s interesting that she’s not getting any darker and wonders where she got her hazel eyes. I lied and told him that my grandmother had the same eyes so she got it from my side. I am so afraid that he’ll find out. He loves her so much and she adores her daddy. How can I tell him that he’s not the father? Should I take this to the grave while never telling him and her the truth? Should I tell him and risk him leaving us and having no one to provide for us? Please help me.

Living a Lie

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Ask V.I.~ I’m His Sex Buddy, But Want To Be His Girl

woman straddling man

Hi V.I.,

I’ve been messing around with one of my best friends oldest cousin. Its been 2 & half month everything is sooooo perfect,but when something doesn’t go they way I want it to I call my friend. He doesn’t try to cover for him but he always says ” don’t expect so much from him ” so I don’t know!?  We haven’t argued about anything, when I call he comes. Something just doesn’t feel right. He hasn’t gave me a reason to leave but other people always have something to say! Our sex is amazing we talk and text all the time. I recently got pregnant and lost the baby but when I first told him he said it’s whatever you wanna do! A part of me feels like he’s hiding something because if were doing so well why not make me his girlfriend?

Pleaseeee help me!!

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Snatched Mane Is Open For Business


*Does the robot* Hola ladies and gentle dudes. I wanted to share some exciting news with my Candy Diaries family. I’ve opened my own business. Yep, that’s the reason I’ve been M.I.A from this here site. I’ve been working on setting up my business Snatched Mane.

If you were unaware, blogging isn’t my only passion. I’m also a wig designer. Yep I’m a custom wig designer honey and damn proud of it. I started this business because I wanted to give women a different perspective on wigs. Gone are the days of buying those cheap generic wigs out of the beauty supply store. The styles don’t fit your face and it just seems so random sitting on top of your head. With the custom units not only do you get a wig made especially for you, but it passes as a sew-in verses a wig. The best part is you can take her off to take care of your own hair, then put it back on and walk out the door looking snatched.

Snatched Mane specializes in full, u-part, bonded (quick weave), and full closure wigs. We also have additional services if you need it, such as knot bleaching, coloring, weft sealing etc. We also sell Brazilian and Peruvian hair of different textures. You can check the site for more information.

I just wanted you guys to know what I’ve been up to, and hope you check out my newest venture. If you have any questions you can always contact me via the site.

It’s time to Get Snatched ladies…

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Can Black Women Be Racists?

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Is it possible for black women to be racists? Some say no, I say bullshit. Some black women can be the most racists people known to man. Ok, I may be exaggerating a bit but shit ya’ll know I’m telling the truth. I’ve noticed that when it comes to relationships some sista’s can be downright racists. Are sista’s racists are just fed up? Are black women justified in feeling they way they do? Are black women just looking for something else to bitch and complain over?

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Do’s and Don’ts of Great Sex

Exhaustion sex is the absolute best sex to experience. You’re in bed looking at each other like “Damn baby what the hell you just did to me”. That’s the type of sex that leaves you breathless and when you try to stand your legs are like jelly. Knowing that the position that you were just in made you feel that long stroke in your abdomen, but you ignore the pain so you can feel the pleasure. So after all the huffing and puffing, the whining and grinding, how did you and your lover get to this point? Fellas, I have 10 do’s and don’t to pleasing a woman.

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When The Lonely… Become Desperate


Loneliness can be that bitch sometimes. When you have the world on your shoulders and it feels like everyday it’s weighing you down. When it comes to lack of relationships women tend to become bitter and pessimistic. Once a woman becomes lonely they either experience 1 of 2 things. They’re either bitter as hell and no man can come within 10 feet of them, or they become so desperate all you gotta do is shake your head because it hurts to even look at em. Either way, some allow their loneliness to turn in to desperation.

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Ask V.I.~He Made Me His Girlfriend, Then Took It Back

father and sons

Hi VI,

So I started dating a full-time single Dad of a 2yr old. In the beginning it was great then he put a label on it making me his gf.  Then he starred pulling away and when I would complain we never found anytime for me (weekdays weren’t good cause if the kid.. Daycare etc.   But weekends he wanted to just chill and have alone time) he freaked our saying I was pressuring him, overwhelming him it was too much. I’m a pretty easy-going chick so when I say complain I mean “hey babe am I going to see you this weekend ”  Finally I had enough of being a gf of convenience and ended it but remained friends..which turned into a booty call or so I thought.  Yes we had sex and lots of it (more than we had in the 2 months we were together combined) but we talked hung out laughed and during the talk he said this was better no pressure and didn’t want to stop seeing me.  He doesn’t want to see or fuck anyone else either.     So my question is.. Did the label gf/bf really freak him out even though he pushed for it  and introduced me to his family and why?  And even if you remove the label but we’re exclusive isn’t that the same thing?

 Confused and Sexually Satisfied

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