Ask V.I.~ I Lied And Told Him That He Is The Father

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Hi V.I.,

I just need to unburden myself to someone. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have a 9 month old daughter. During our relationship I can admit that I haven’t been very faithful to him. The sex isn’t stimulating to me. He’s a good guy, but when it comes to sex he’s very one-dimensional. So, I started getting it elsewhere. I was doing pretty good until I started feeling sick and throwing up all the time. I thought I had the flu until I went to the doctor and she did a urine test. I was pregnant and didn’t know what to do. I had to make the decision if I should keep the child when I wasn’t sure who was my child’s father. I decided to tell my boyfriend it was his child. He was more stable financially than the other guy and frankly I knew he would be there and provide for her the way she needed to be cared for.

Now that my little girl is growing into her features I’m noticing that she resembles the other guy than her “father”. As a matter of fact she looks like his 2-year-old son. I’m so afraid that my boyfriend will question her looks. Last week he said that it’s interesting that she’s not getting any darker and wonders where she got her hazel eyes. I lied and told him that my grandmother had the same eyes so she got it from my side. I am so afraid that he’ll find out. He loves her so much and she adores her daddy. How can I tell him that he’s not the father? Should I take this to the grave while never telling him and her the truth? Should I tell him and risk him leaving us and having no one to provide for us? Please help me.

Living a Lie

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Ask V.I.~ I’m His Sex Buddy, But Want To Be His Girl

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Hi V.I.,

I’ve been messing around with one of my best friends oldest cousin. Its been 2 & half month everything is sooooo perfect,but when something doesn’t go they way I want it to I call my friend. He doesn’t try to cover for him but he always says ” don’t expect so much from him ” so I don’t know!?  We haven’t argued about anything, when I call he comes. Something just doesn’t feel right. He hasn’t gave me a reason to leave but other people always have something to say! Our sex is amazing we talk and text all the time. I recently got pregnant and lost the baby but when I first told him he said it’s whatever you wanna do! A part of me feels like he’s hiding something because if were doing so well why not make me his girlfriend?

Pleaseeee help me!!

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Snatched Mane Is Open For Business

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*Does the robot* Hola ladies and gentle dudes. I wanted to share some exciting news with my Candy Diaries family. I’ve opened my own business. Yep, that’s the reason I’ve been M.I.A from this here site. I’ve been working on setting up my business Snatched Mane.

If you were unaware, blogging isn’t my only passion. I’m also a wig designer. Yep I’m a custom wig designer honey and damn proud of it. I started this business because I wanted to give women a different perspective on wigs. Gone are the days of buying those cheap generic wigs out of the beauty supply store. The styles don’t fit your face and it just seems so random sitting on top of your head. With the custom units not only do you get a wig made especially for you, but it passes as a sew-in verses a wig. The best part is you can take her off to take care of your own hair, then put it back on and walk out the door looking snatched.

Snatched Mane specializes in full, u-part, bonded (quick weave), and full closure wigs. We also have additional services if you need it, such as knot bleaching, coloring, weft sealing etc. We also sell Brazilian and Peruvian hair of different textures. You can check the site for more information.

I just wanted you guys to know what I’ve been up to, and hope you check out my newest venture. If you have any questions you can always contact me via the site.

It’s time to Get Snatched ladies…

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Can Black Women Be Racists?

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Is it possible for black women to be racists? Some say no, I say bullshit. Some black women can be the most racists people known to man. Ok, I may be exaggerating a bit but shit ya’ll know I’m telling the truth. I’ve noticed that when it comes to relationships some sista’s can be downright racists. Are sista’s racists are just fed up? Are black women justified in feeling they way they do? Are black women just looking for something else to bitch and complain over?

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Do’s and Don’ts of Great Sex

Exhaustion sex is the absolute best sex to experience. You’re in bed looking at each other like “Damn baby what the hell you just did to me”. That’s the type of sex that leaves you breathless and when you try to stand your legs are like jelly. Knowing that the position that you were just in made you feel that long stroke in your abdomen, but you ignore the pain so you can feel the pleasure. So after all the huffing and puffing, the whining and grinding, how did you and your lover get to this point? Fellas, I have 10 do’s and don’t to pleasing a woman.

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When The Lonely… Become Desperate

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Loneliness can be that bitch sometimes. When you have the world on your shoulders and it feels like everyday it’s weighing you down. When it comes to lack of relationships women tend to become bitter and pessimistic. Once a woman becomes lonely they either experience 1 of 2 things. They’re either bitter as hell and no man can come within 10 feet of them, or they become so desperate all you gotta do is shake your head because it hurts to even look at em. Either way, some allow their loneliness to turn in to desperation.

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Ask V.I.~He Made Me His Girlfriend, Then Took It Back

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Hi VI,

So I started dating a full-time single Dad of a 2yr old. In the beginning it was great then he put a label on it making me his gf.  Then he starred pulling away and when I would complain we never found anytime for me (weekdays weren’t good cause if the kid.. Daycare etc.   But weekends he wanted to just chill and have alone time) he freaked our saying I was pressuring him, overwhelming him it was too much. I’m a pretty easy-going chick so when I say complain I mean “hey babe am I going to see you this weekend “  Finally I had enough of being a gf of convenience and ended it but remained friends..which turned into a booty call or so I thought.  Yes we had sex and lots of it (more than we had in the 2 months we were together combined) but we talked hung out laughed and during the talk he said this was better no pressure and didn’t want to stop seeing me.  He doesn’t want to see or fuck anyone else either.     So my question is.. Did the label gf/bf really freak him out even though he pushed for it  and introduced me to his family and why?  And even if you remove the label but we’re exclusive isn’t that the same thing?

 Confused and Sexually Satisfied

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Pay Attention To The Red Flags In Dating

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Listen here, when it comes to dating ya’ll better pay attention to the signs. If you see or hear something that doesn’t seem right, get the hell out of the way. When it comes to dating we tend to let shit slide. We are so nervous that we “miss our blessings” that we overlook shit that need to be looked at. I’ve become a firm believer of “the signs.” If you gather enough red flags it’s the universe telling you this shit ain’t for you. There are some of us that bypass these obvious flags for other reasons. Maybe it’s loneliness, love or just plain ol physical attraction; if you bypass these red flags can you get mad when the shit doesn’t work out in the end?

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All Hoes Have An Expiration Date *Vintage*

A lot of people fail to realize that a hoe no matter how hoe-ish he/she might be, doesn’t go very far for too long. All hoes expire at some point. Yea they’re hot for a minute, but once the guy/girl realizes that there is something out there better you will be a distant memory. There are a lot of chicks out here that think f*cking every guy for recognition, money or a damn purse is needed. They choose to live their life that way, but fail to realize there is a time that their services won’t be needed. They will be tossed to the side and left out in the cold with a busted and bruised coochie and a bag that is so last year.

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Would You Stay If He Got Someone Else Pregnant?

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What would you do if the man you loved, got someone else pregnant? Would you stay or go? Recently a lot of celebrity scandals have come out involving conceiving love children with random chicks. They all say the same thing “My woman and I were on a break and I hit a bitch raw. Now I’m a pappy, don’t judge me”. Then you have these women  who have obviously been cheated on, but wanna save face so they stay in the relationship. Not even taking into account that these men that claim to love them f*cked some chick raw dog and now she’s about to conceive his offspring. Can love be that deep where you can overlook infidelity, blatant carelessness and drama? 

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