We all have that one parent that just feels the need to stick their heads all up in our business. They always have an opinion about the person you’re dating and feel the need to express said feelings at every possible moment. Ok, so mommas will be mommas I guess. Well what about when you’ve met someone who you want to settle down with and your opinionated momma is dead set against your relationship? No matter how deep in love you are your parental unit just can’t see it for you. At what point do you set your momma straight or do you just end your relationship because she ain’t “feeling” him?
So on Sunday the highly anticipated premier of Season 6′s Real Housewives of Atlanta started with a bang. Well not really, it was more like a slow flame. Any who as we all guessed Bravo has chosen to capitalize off of Porsha’s one-sided marriage. Now I’m all about making coins the way you can, but I think it makes her look more stupid than before…if that’s at all possible. We all heard the rumors of Kordell sucking dick down at the park, but now it seems that Porsha and Bravo are trying to allude that Kordell really does love that thang that swangs between a man’s legs. Now I know Kordell is one of the gays, hell even Helen Keller can see that shit and mama been gone to glory for decades but I digress. It seems that Miss Porsha either knew that Kordell devoured nothing but penis, but married him anyway for title or status. Or she had no knowledge that she was his beard. Either way I realized that a lot of women out here have no clue or in denial that they are in fact dating one of the gays and they’re being used.
Oh lawd geesus! The Real “Housewives” of Atlanta is back with another season and this shit right here looks so damn good. Like many of you I’m an RHOA fan and I just love all the silly simple shit these chicks do. They’re all messy as hell and I love that whole ratchet ass aspect of it. So last week Bravo released an extended trailer and I got so excited I damn near pee’d myself. You have to watch the video below to get the full measure of my excitement. Chile I am soooooooooooooo ready.
Being faithful isn’t easy. Hell if it was then there would be a lot more happy relationships and a lot less cheating. When someone decides to cheat they have totally disconnected from their committed relationship. Let’s just get this straight. Cheating is not only a physical act. If you stepped outside of your relationship and developed an emotional connection to someone other than your partner that is cheating also. So many people feel like if the dick didn’t present itself then you’re not guilty of stepping outside your relationship. Girl goodbye. The second you became emotionally attached you’ve just cheated on your man/woman. Why does it seem that it’s easier to find someone who has cheated than to find someone who has never cheated in a relationship?
There is no “I” in team. Some things can be done on the solo but that don’t mean it’s to be done. I’ve noticed when a lot of people get into relationships it seems like they’re working against each other rather than with each other. When in a relationship I think team work is essential to make the shit work. How many times have you encountered couples that just argued all the damn time. You constantly think to yourself that these idiots need not be together because they’re just making each other miserable. Then you realize that they need to stay together because no one else should be subjected to their brand of bullshit. When you and your partner can discuss, compromise and implement within your relationship then it has no choice but to prosper. That makes me wonder if someone can’t work within a team setting should they be hopeful of finding a successful relationship?
I love Jermaine Cole…J.Cole for you non-believers. His album “Born Sinner” is still HEAVY in rotation in my car since it came out a few months ago. Well, Mr. Cole has finally released a video for his song “Crooked Smile“ featuring TLC. This is one of my favorite songs on the album, but then again every song on his album is my fav…but I digress.
When I watched the video the salty discharge that fell from my eyes were so unexpected. The video doesn’t have fancy cinematography or video hoes acting too cute for the camera. The video tells a story. Not only is it heartfelt, but reflects real-life events. I hate telling you guys scene by scene on what’s gonna happen. I rather you watch it for yourselves.
I commend J.Cole for this video and shinning a light on what’s really going on in our communities and why some people do what they do. The video is dedicated to Aiyana Stanley-Jones. A little girl who was killed by in a SWAT raid in Detroit.
I have a one year son with a man I’m no longer with. He comes to see the baby, but I don’t see him because I work late. I was very happy that I dot see him because he tends to start up a fight or wants to get friendly. I hate that. He figured out I get home late so I stay out later. He has a woman that he says he will never leave or that they have a understanding. He believes that we will still be together for some crazy reason. Why is he acting like a dick? He didn’t want a family so leave me alone and deal with the child. I believe he’s scared of his woman. He told me they have a crazy relationship but they’re good. But when his family and close friends tells the story they say she was the controlling one and he just deals with it because that’s all he knows. Lol. This is a 40 year old talking. He’s 40 and she’s 42, and they live like teenagers. I don’t have any thing to do with him personally, but he keeps on pushing the cause. When I reject him he gets all upset and then tries to man handle me. We get in to it. When I start to tell him the truth he get all upset and defensive. Nothing is his fault. Everything just happen the way its suppose to. I just need to let him know I have a life and I will have a man in my life with my kids and he cant stop that.
They say love makes you do strange and usual things at times. They ain’t never lied. A few days ago I had the pleasure of viewing a new independent short film “And Then” by writer-director-actor Ka’ramuu Kush. Kush is also the third Shadow & Act Black Filmmaker Challenge. This film touches on so many things within black relationships; love, sex, sensuality even lack of communication.
The movie follows Isis and August (played by Kush and Diandra Lyle) a couple in love who really seem to have their little issues here and there, but for the most part working on building a stronger relationship. In my opinion it seems that Isis isn’t the best at communicating her thoughts and in turn makes their relationship take an unexpected turn.
The movie displays the exploration of sexuality often hidden by black women and their willingness to let go. I’m telling you I didn’t really expect the film to do what it did, but honey I was watching and holding my breath. It could have went either really right or really wrong. You know what, take a look at the film and let me know what you think. Are you willing to open up in your relationship or are there certain boundaries you will not cross? Let’s discuss it.
Click the link and check out “And Then“. If You’re at work you may want to watch this on your cell phone. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
I love when black relationships takes that next step into black marriage. It’s a beautiful thing when you see two people who love each other walk down the aisle in bliss. The thing that I’ve noticed is that some marriages nowadays have such a short shelf life. Everything is peaches and cream in the beginning, but when wedding ends and the last guest leaves it all goes to hell. The marriage actually starts these fools can’t seem to make shit work. Is it that folks are “falling so deep in like” with people they think they can tolerate? Are they using marriage as a way to repair their already bullshit relationship? Has marriage become the in thing to do even if it’s with the wrong person? Does a lifetime now consist of 5 years tops?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being an independent black woman, but I think some women use their “independence” as a cover. Many single women shout “I’m independent. I got my own house, car and money. Yea I’m doing it for myself.” Hmmm last time I checked isn’t that what it means to be SINGLE? I don’t know how many of ya’ll will ride with me on what I’m about to say, but here goes. I think women confuse the term independent and they don’t realize all the shit they got is what a single woman is supposed to have. Then you have some women that use their “independence” to scare men away, then wonder why they can’t find any good men out there. Ya’ll confusing your damn self and chasing away any prospect for any long-term relationships.
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