Dear V.I.

I hope you can help me with this problem. Im in love with a man who has 9 children but that’s not my dilemma. The problem is I’m pregnant with child #10 and he has a track record of being with someone else and having another child when the majority of his kids were still in the womb. Do you think its possible for him to change? He swears up and down that he loves only me but I’m just a bit insecure when it comes to this matter and this is my 1st child. Do u think IM overreacting?

Thanks

Feeling Insecure

Dear Feeling Insecure,

Honey, what in the world prompted you to get involved with this man? He might be a good guy, hell I don’t know dude from a holey boxer short. I just don’t get why a single woman with no kids would get involved with a man that has 9? You said you love him and I can understand that love can happen at anytime. If you knew he had a tendency of getting women pregnant and moving to the next chick and getting her knocked up, why would you get heavily involved? I’m not trying to come down on you, I’m just trying to get a better handle of this issue.

A man can change only if he wants to change. He says he loves you and that might be true, but I can guarantee that he told the other women the same damn thing. You have every reason to feel the way you feel. You’ve now involved yourself in a messy situation. By the way, how many baby mothers does he actually have and does he take care of his children? That is what you need to really worry about. Love is cute and all, but at the end of the day your child needs to be supported. If you see how he treats supporting his other kids, chances are he will try to do the same to yours. If he starts seeing other women and shit, don’t be surprised nor shocked. You knew the man he was when you got with him. All you can do now is take care of that child. If he bucks up and does the right thing, I will be so happy for you. Just know at the end of the day, your responsibility is to that baby. You have to do what is in the best interest of that child. Don’t settle for what he gives you just because he is the father.

I really hope I’ve helped you in some way. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make the right one that will be in your best interest. Keep me posted.

Thanks

V.I.

xoxoxoxoxoxox

Dear V.I.

So I’m 21 and still a virgin…and I’ve kind of never had a boyfriend…weird I know. And I haven’t really met any one that I like enough to just go all the way with. I think that my problem is that I feel like I might pick the wrong person to be with. So that stops me alot, that and the fact that I have a few body issues(but who doesnt), I mean I’ll get over that. And it doesnt help that my cousins and my friends are always on me about being a virgin. But shyt I mean I do wanna have sex just as much as the next person if not more. So i just wanted to know if you had advice for me on the subject.

Thanks

Am I Ready

Dear Am I Ready,

I know you’re anxious to get it over with, but don’t do it just because of peer pressure. People around you gonna say whatever shit they can to make you feel bad about it. Do it when you’re ready, not because their bitch asses trying to make you feel bad for having morals. Back in the day I was the last one out of my friends to have sex. They said their corny shit, but I knew deep down I wasn’t ready. There were times I felt like I just wanted to get it over with, but I knew once I did there was no turning back.

You stated you’re 21 years old and “kind” of never had a boyfriend. What is the reason you never had a boyfriend? I am actually concerned about that issue. Back to the matter at hand, the first time should be with someone who cares about you and vice versa. Don’t just give it up to some random and when it’s over he tries to clown you. You held onto it for this long, so someone special needs to have the pleasure of experiencing your goodness.

I say wait until you get involved with someone. Don’t just do it just to get it over with. You want to at least enjoy the person. Warning: The first time sucks monkey balls. There will be nothing sexy nor pleasurable about it. It’s gonna hurt! I just feel like I need to give you fair warning if you decide to one day take it there. Also, whoever you’re with make sure he’s gentle. Sometimes you get dudes going in there all Mike Tyson and shit and try to beat that p*ssy open. It’s your first time so it needs to be as comfortable as possible, because it’s gonna suck. LOL. I don’t want to discourage you. So my advice…wait until you’re involved with someone to give up the virginity. It feels a lot better when the man you’re with actually gives a shit.

I hope I helped you in some way. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make the right one that will be in your best interest. Keep me posted.

Thanks

V.I.

xoxoxoxoxoxox

Have you ever met a man that STILL brings his ex up every chance he gets? You’re watching a lovely documentary about the mating rituals of the african black gorilla and his ass says that the gorilla’s smile reminds him of her. Now that might be a way over board scenario, but shit like that can drive any sane woman to drink. Some times you meet people that are stuck in the past. They try to move on, but all they can do is reminisce about what use to be. It is true that time heals all wound but if they ended the relationship in 1998 and it’s 2010 and that man is still talking about her, you need to drop that chicken dinner. There is absolutely no way you can move on with him if this chick is still looming around. Here are you a tips to let you know he’s still not over her.

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There is nothing wrong with giving head; nothing at all. The problem I find is that some women give head to EVERY man that has a dick. There are men I couldn’t suck on if I had Superhead’s mouth. You know that chick would suck anything lol, but I digress. A woman should never be ashamed of giving head, but I do feel a woman should never give if he isn’t willing to return the favor.

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So last night was the 52nd Grammy Awards and I must say the shit was both entertaining and messy at the same time. I guess being an entertaining mess was what the white folks were going for with this show *Kanye Shrug*. I love watching these shows because you see some of these celebrities do the most awkward shit. It was interesting to see all the outfits at the Pre-Show, but the main show was where all the drama took place. First off, most of the negro category winners where announced before the show actually started. I guess they felt they needed less black on the stage while the world was watching. If you watched the show last night you may have noticed our two favorite rejects were not in attendance. I guess because it was the 1 year anniversary of Chris’s infamous Lambo beat down, they felt like he could just chill at the crib. Kanye wasn’t in attendance either, because Taylor was nominated for 8 awards and him getting up on stage all those times would have just be distracted the audience. Since I just ran down the missing negros I will now run down the good and the bad of the award show.

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Dear Guy with the Nose,

*Chewing on sunflower seeds and spits them out on your shoe* What up playa? I just have so many things I built up in my head to say to you, that now I don’t know where to start. True enough you come from one of the most musical families of our time, but what crack rock do you smoke and where can I cop some? I don’t smoke the crack and such, but obviously the crack you on makes you believe that you’re more talented than William Hung. I wrote a letter to your senile Pappy not too long ago and now I feel the need to address you.

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