Is Fear Preventing You From Trying?

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Have you ever gotten to the point in your life where you know you were destined for greater things, but you’re too afraid of exploring what it is? You may be talented at doing hair or a powerhouse on stage, but because you’re so afraid of the unknown you never take that leap of faith. Fear can only hold you back in life, it can also hinder your growth and progression. The biggest fear with trying is failure. Many think if you’ve tried and failed, you have been defeated. Failure is the stepping stone for greatness. Many have failed and did not let it stop their passion.

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Missy Elliot Is Back!! Drops First Video In Seven Years “WTF (Where They From)”



Misdemeanor is back and I am all here for all of it. Missy dropped her first video in 7 years this morning and has everyone over 30 going nuts. Missy’s new song “WTF (Where They From)” is the first single from her upcoming 7th album. Missy did not disappoint with this new video. This is classic Missy and it’s exciting to see. Her creativity has been lacking in this music industry and now it’s like a breath of fresh air. You know what…I’ve done enough talking. Let Missy Elliot do her work. Check out the blessing that was bestowed upon us below.


Should Cheating Be Expected In Long Distance Relationships?

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Being in a long distance relationship is so damn difficult. Not only is the distance a factor, shit can go left really quickly. To be in a successful long distance relationship not only does will power play a part, but trust is the most important thing. You never know what other life your partner may or may not be living while away. It’s easy to fall in to the trap of cheating. Once that loneliness sets in, and the constant phone calls aren’t enough shit can take a turn for the worse. What happens when you’re trying to do right by your partner, but your emotions and coochie constantly telling you something else? After spending those late lonely nights alone and fiendin for that touch that you would love your man to provide, is it acceptable to get it somewhere else? I mean it’s just until you and your man can see each other again. You are human and sometimes things happen right? Should slip ups be expected in a long distance relationship?

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The Pros and Cons of Living Together Before Marriage

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When I met my boyfriend two years ago, I didn’t think that our relationship would travel so fast. Now I’m telling ya’ll my business, but hell ya’ll won’t judge us right? *side eye* Well 4 months into our relationship, we decided to move in together. Early into the relationship we knew exactly what we wanted. We knew that we wanted to eventually get married. We were both at the age where we were ready and we were totally and hopelessly in love. I must admit the thought of living with a man scared the shit out of me. Up until that point I never lived with one of those creatures before. Hell I lived alone for so long, the thought of having someone else in my space seemed weird as hell. After a long discussion and lots of planning, we finally did it. 

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Are You A Present Friend?

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Are you a present friend? A friend that cares about the people close to you? Are you there for your friends for the good times and bad? Are you the person that encourages your friends when they need it, but also can tell them the harsh truth when it’s required? Unfortunately, not all friendships are that way. Some friendships are hella one-sided. Where the friendship feels more like a task and less organic. You only hear from them when they need to complain about the same things they complained about last year.  Never acknowledging what you may be going through. Those friends are not friends. They’re the people in your life that hold on to you for their own benefit. Why allow a friend who isn’t present in your friendship continue to use the friendship to keep you present?

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Vintage: Friends Before Lovers? Should You Be Friends First?

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We all know a couple that have been long time friends and then decided to take their friendship to another level. They’re both single and get along great, so why not see if they can actually date? Many say it’s an easy transition from friends to lovers. A relationship works better if you’ve developed a friendship before becoming intimate. I do agree, but damn what if the relationship doesn’t work out the way you’d hoped. Can you easily go back to being “just friends”?

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